He left his wife or she left him....

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Registered: 09-18-2003
He left his wife or she left him....
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Wed, 11-26-2003 - 10:55am
Hi everyone,

My world has suddenly changed, our playing feild is now uneven! My MM and his W have seperated. She left and moved out 3 days ago. She is moving into an apartment with the kids and says that she knows there relationship is over. They have been trying to work on it for the last 5 years. She thinks he is seeing someone he works with, has no idea he is seeing me. I guess she got these supsicousions because of all the over time he is working lately. He said, he is working overtime to stay away from her.

Anyway, now....I am still M and am finding it hard to stay centered. I want to be with my MM I(now what do I call him?) hee hee SMM? Seperated married man. Gosh I have no idea what is going to happen now. We want to be together and would like to get married in the future.... He said let me get through my divorce and then you will go through it and I can be there to help you... I think it's good advice but it is going to be a long road.

I just wanted to give an update and see if anyone has any words of advice or wisdom for me, I appreciate it so much.

On, a good note, I am spending the weekend with him and can hardly wait.

Wishing~

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Registered: 09-18-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 2:11pm
anyone, please respond, I need to hear some thoughts on this.

Thanks, Wishing

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 2:20pm
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Edited 12/1/2003 9:08:43 PM ET by stillwingy
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Wed, 11-26-2003 - 2:34pm
Wishing-

I hope things work out for you.

But what I want to know is, how are you able to get away for a weekend, being married? Having been a faithful, homebody wife for 34 years, I am racking my brain to find a way to do just that with my long distance lover. What do you do?

Legs
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Registered: 09-18-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 2:40pm
Hey there Longlegs2-

I have family in a few cities away were my MM lives, I'm just going to visit them and my family keeps the kids for me. My sister is a godsend !

Hope that helps some, Wishing

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Registered: 09-18-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 2:43pm
Stillwingy~

Thanks so much for your words of wisdom and encouragement. I appreciate it so much. Although this is getting jumpstarted etc. we would have had to wait 15 yrs to be together because the plan was orginially that we'd wait until the kids were grown.....now things have really changed. I do plan on enjoying every moment with him this weekend. Thanks again and I'll keep sending pixie dust your way that your MM leaves soon. We all need to be happy ! Hugs, Wishing

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Registered: 11-19-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 5:04pm
That's great! You must be really happy that the wife is no longer in the picture full time. That's a step forward. And another plus you're spending time with him this weekend. I'm happy for you. You waited a long time for this and finally it happened. Hopefully, the divorce is a speedy one for your MM and then he/you can spend more time together and work on the relationship some more. Are you planning to separate and eventually get a divorce as well? He has kids and you have kids, what do you think about that? Do you think you'll be ok with meshing of the two familys?

I wish you luck and happy holidays!

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 5:45pm

Hi wishing,


I don't know that I can offer any advice for you on this one... it's one place I don't think I'll ever be.

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