The Ultimatum

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Registered: 09-02-2003
The Ultimatum
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Wed, 11-26-2003 - 11:58pm
Did I spell ultimatum right? Anyway, tonight I was handed one. Either we get physical or I'm out of his life. He says it's ridiculous for two people to be in love and not hug and kiss. As I wrote in a previous post... I'm not sure I'm still in love with MM. But it does stink... He was my in every thought for so many months ... then the attraction dried up... but I was hoping he'd let us "stay friends". It was a good two weeks while it lasted. I guess I knew it was only a matter of time before he just said, "Don't call me anymore." I'm pretty sure he'll be back. That doesn't help much though because he wants what I can't give. I keep telling myself that at least maybe this is good for his W and for his M. I'm going to miss him.
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Fri, 11-28-2003 - 8:45am
You have to do what you feel is right for you. If you don't want to take it to the next level, that's your decision. He shouldn't try and pressure you to change it. If you have doubts about it and go ahead anyways, you may regret it. And for those of us in this, I think you have to be pretty sure about once you go there, there's no going back. And that there are no regrets. Good luck to you.

Dusty
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-28-2003 - 1:31pm
I should be issuing the same ultimatum now with my MM. I am sick of being in an affair with no hugs and kisses too. We too do the 'stay friends' thing and my MM also givesme the 'no calling me anymore' routine. sigh. I guess I could loose interest like you did with him. sigh
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Registered: 09-02-2003
Fri, 11-28-2003 - 5:30pm
Learning French- I'm a little confused. So MM won't give the hugs and kisses?