new here....anyone with any regrets

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Registered: 03-31-2003
new here....anyone with any regrets
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Fri, 11-28-2003 - 11:00pm
I am about to end my 3 year marriage to my husband who has never really loved me and no matter how many times I have expressed to him my wishes, he never complies. Anyway, about three months ago, I started attending school with no thoughts or intentions of having feelins for anyone (ok-duh). Matter of fact I vowed that when this marriage ended, that I would remain relationship free for 2-3 years or so. Right now I am beginning to have some incredibly strong feelings for one of my teachers and he has made known his feelings as well but is wise not to act on them, at least not while I'm still his student. The attraction is so amazing that I feel like I'm going to burst and I really do want to be with him, at least sexually right now. But thinking to much, of how I could be taken advantage of and the fact that I may seem desperate, since my husband has denied me so much from the beginning of our marriage. I would like to get to know him on a friendship basis right now, but don't want to appear desparate because he knows my situation. and no I'm not leaving my husband for him, although he appears to be everything that I really want in a potential mate. I understand these feelings and desires may be a result of being physically, emotionally and mentally starved for the past three years and he may be potentially feeling a void, but I really do like this person. He tells me that if I wait too long that I could be setting myself up to repeat the same mistake of marrying another man I'm not really in love with or don't want to be with. Even though I have no intentions on remaining in this marriage, I'm feeling a little guilty wanting to be with another man sexually and since our marriage has not officially ended, it would still be considered infidelity. Anybody had any regrets on having an affair?
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Registered: 08-23-2003
Sat, 11-29-2003 - 11:28am
I have been in my A for 3 years. I am divorced and he is married with children. I didn't get divorced because of him. My marriage was long over already but, I did finalized it for him.

It's been hard, to say the least. We are in a long distance A and the distance does take a toll sometimes. OK, :), a lot of the time.

However, I do not reget being with him. The only thing I would probably change would be the miles between us, but other then that I would do it again.

It's hard to be in a sexless and loveless marriage. I know I was in one for a very, very long time, :(.

You need to do what is right for you.

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Sat, 11-29-2003 - 4:38pm
I have been in my A for 3 months and so far i have no regrets, I am very happy when i am with my MM.

 Seeburg    

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Registered: 11-07-2003
Sat, 11-29-2003 - 4:49pm
No regrets whatsoever. The sex is great, the love and friendship is incredible. He treats me like a goddesses. I am totally hooked on him. Good luck in whatever you decide.
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Registered: 11-22-2003
Sat, 11-29-2003 - 10:55pm
I couldn't have said it better myself!! :-}