Good News: They really do leave their W!

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Registered: 11-29-2003
Good News: They really do leave their W!
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Sat, 11-29-2003 - 5:49pm
I know that a lot of people on this board feel very distraught at times, and are often discouraged by friends, family, and society to continue their relationship with their MM. How often have we all heard, "He'll never leave his wife. He'll never leave his lifestyle, his kids, his house...etc..."

Well, I'm here to say that DO leave, and everyone DOES move on! And all of those people that you thought might never accept you because they were friends with HER quickly get over it, and embrace YOU! Even the children!

So keep your chins up, and believe in love, if that's what you really have. My fiance and I dated for a year before he filed for divorce. Now we are 3 years into our relationship and everything is working out great! His XW is still miserable as ever, but somethings never change, right?!

Happy Holidays!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2003
Sat, 11-29-2003 - 7:18pm
I just wanted to say thank you for having something positive to say!!!!!!

 Seeburg    

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Registered: 11-22-2003
Sat, 11-29-2003 - 11:15pm
I am so happy for you! My MM has left his W, too, but not for me, for himself. She's borderline psychotic and he needed to leave a long time ago. I'm sure she's the reason he started this A, but my H wasn't (isn't), although I do plan to leave some time in the next year or so. Since he left, the A has changed, become more than an A (his exact words) and gotten much deeper (again, his words). I'm hoping for a "happily ever after" like it sounds like you got! You go, girl!
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Registered: 08-12-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 9:42am
Thanks hopelives4me for really making my day a whole lot better. Your post gives me some hope that maybe the same thing will happen to me. Congratulations!=)
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 12:26pm
my MM also divorced his wife 2 years after our affair began...some marriages are irreconcilable and divorce is inevitable...i would not want to encourage a single woman to live on hope and waste her life waiting waiting for her MM to leave though...nor do i think its wise for a person to divorce and jump into a new relationship immediately... i've read its important a divorced person has a good year to come to grips with the change and to become independant and stand on their own first.

best to you Hope!

honey