Some ?'s from someone new to an affair
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Some ?'s from someone new to an affair
| Sun, 11-30-2003 - 4:15am |
Hi everyone!, my name is Nicolette and I am new to this fourm. After three monthes of silent, undeclared love, I have entered into a relationship with one of my professors, who is a MM. Up until now, we have shared a very close friendship and working partnership. He is giving up a lot for me.Practically his whole exsistance-His job, his wife, the respect of his children and his rep. They can all go if his affair is found out. I on the other hand have almost nothing to loose and am not looking for him to leave his wife. I enjoy his companionship and affection. He has been married for 20 years and has grown children. There is a considerable age differance between us as well, he is 37 years older then me, which does not seem to pose a problem. Before I entered into this relationship, I had no intention of even dating anyone, and I was enjoying the single life. With this very new relationship forming, I am finding myself happy, looking forward to things on the horizen, but before I embark on my journey, I would like to ask some questions from some of you.
1.How far into your affair, did you have sex? ( I am young and inexperianced so I have not had a lot of experiance with this)
2. I think the one thing with the age differance, is that he could show me things that men my age could not. As a student, I long for the security that does not come with being a student. I do not mean to sound shallow, but how could I help me along, materially and financially with out sounding too needy? Is this comman for a MM to help out his Mistress? I have heard this happens a lot, and I was just wondering about the truth of the matter.
3. And finally, This is going to sound kind of dumb. What do you call the MM your are involved with? Your boyfriend, your lover?

To answer your questions:
1. I'm six months into my EMA. Things have just become intimate in the past month. I'm MW with children, and he is a MM, with children.
2. Does my MM help me out financially or professionally? No. But knowing him as I do, I know he would if I asked him. However, keep in mind, once you expect a man, MM or single to help you out financially, you are talking about a "slippery slope". For me, the EMA is about friendship, a confidant, and a lover.
Which answers number 3, I call my MM my friend, and know he is also my lover.
Hope this helps.