showing signs??

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Registered: 10-06-2003
showing signs??
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Tue, 12-02-2003 - 10:14am
MM and I have been in this A for about 3 years, and I have told NO one (other than here). He has one frined the works with that knows, I believe he has covered for him a few times.

But I would not tell anyone, we live in a small town and news like that travles as fast as cell phones ring. Anyway, firday night, I had a family party to attend, I knew H would not go, so I planned to slip away to meet MM, just for a bit. As I was slipping out the door my mom stops me and asks me where I'm going, I give her my excues, then she says tell (incert MM name here) I said hello! I could have died, but I hoped she didnt notice. So I'm off to meet MM, we have a wonderful 20 mins!! OMG I love that man!!

I slip back into the party unmissed,(except by mom). I sit down across from mom and she says you are going to get cought. I asked her was she hoping I would? She said I hope you leave before you do.

So what do you think mom just knows me, or am I giving off signals that I dont realize? Mom and I talk alot and she knows I'm not happy with H, but I really thought I was keeping this under wraps?

Any one else have frineds or family that supect? How do you deal with it?

dayz

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Registered: 07-27-2003
In reply to: dayzrlost
Tue, 12-02-2003 - 10:52am
Hi dayz

My mother knows all about my marital problems as well. I think your mother might just know you too well -- let me explain...Your post hit home with me because a few months ago I was having lunch with my mother and MM's name came up (he is someone I used to work closely with). I too have told no one about my relationship with him, and I have also made sure to keep everything at home on an even keel. Anyway, his name came up, and the conversation was casual (at least I thought). Out of nowhere my Mother asked me if something was going on. It completely caught me off guard and I blushed. I said “NO!”, but my Mom commented and asked why I was blushing. I told her I liked him and found him attractive, but that was all; we didn’t even work together anymore, etc. Since then I have noticed her kind of “watching” me -- me behavior, etc; I think she might have an idea.

After this conversation, I wracked my brains wondering if I was acting suspicious (just like you)…but I really don’t think I am -- and IF I am, I am putting out signals that only a MOTHER can pick up on. I guess she just knows me -- and it sounds like your Mom knows you too!!!

Just be careful and more aware of your actions now. Are you going to talk to your Mom about this more? I have thought of telling my Mother; I know she would never judge me (or tell H), but I would be afraid that she would tell my father!!!

Hope this helps…I’m curious as to what other people will have to say too.

Charlotte

 

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Registered: 10-14-2003
In reply to: dayzrlost
Tue, 12-02-2003 - 11:10am
Boy! I have been wondering the same thing myself. I have told one other person, she has been a really good friend for years and a while back she confessed to me that she had been guilty of infidelity and I have since become her confidant about an ongoing affair she has been in. Plus, she is across the country from me. However, no one close by knows. But MM & I work together & we always try very hard to keep things on an even keel so noone at the office will notice. I think we do a good job, but I have been especiall worried about the upcoming office Christmas party, not only will we have ot worry about keeping cool around our co-workers, but both my So & his W will be there too. Talk about worrying about giving off signals!!!

Kitty

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Registered: 09-22-2003
In reply to: dayzrlost
Tue, 12-02-2003 - 1:28pm
I've been very lucky so far. Other than MM and this board, the only other person that knows is my best friend. It's hard trying to hide my R with him especially because we work together. Being around each other five days a week, working in the same section, same breaks. You would think that someone would say something. They might suspect, but without proof, that's all it is.
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Registered: 10-06-2003
In reply to: dayzrlost
Tue, 12-02-2003 - 2:43pm
Charlotte,

My mother and I are very close, and I think sometimes she just picks up on little things that others might not notice. I did think about talking to my mom about MM. I wouldnt have to worry about her tell H or anyone for that matter, But like you if my Dad were to find out, oh man that would not be good. And I dont want to put her in the palce to have to lie to dad.

Mom knows my MM, and his kids, (love those small towns).

Mom would like to see me happy, not matter who makes me happy.

But for now I'm keeping this between MM and you here on the board.

Thanks,

dayz

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Registered: 07-27-2003
In reply to: dayzrlost
Tue, 12-02-2003 - 2:49pm
dayz

100% DITTO!!!!