Meeting the W...
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Meeting the W...
| Tue, 12-02-2003 - 12:07pm |
O.K. I know from reading the posts that some of you know the Ws of your MM. I do not. I have no idea what she looks like, what her personality is like, or even what her name is!! I am ahsamed to say I was VERY BRIEFLY involved with a MM once before. But it was COMPLETELY different. We were at forst like each oter marriage conselours so I knew everyting about his W & M. I even had met her. One day we were talking & advising & comforting & it went to far. He said he loved me and wanted to leave his wife for me. I told him if he wanted to leave fine, but not to leave for me. I was not leaving my relationship at the time.
Back to the point. My MM now, is totally different (as my posts tell). I know he is married of course, but really do not want to know anything about the W. Now, the Christmas party is coming up and we will both be there with our mates. (mine is soon to be an ex - after the first of the year- long story)I am terrified about meeting her. What if she can see something between us? What if my SO can? What if she is STONE COLD FOX? I think that scares me the most. If she is hot, I am gonna be like? What the hell is he doing with me? Oh, I get it! It is not sex with ME, not that he wanted ME, just wanted sex.
Back to the point. My MM now, is totally different (as my posts tell). I know he is married of course, but really do not want to know anything about the W. Now, the Christmas party is coming up and we will both be there with our mates. (mine is soon to be an ex - after the first of the year- long story)I am terrified about meeting her. What if she can see something between us? What if my SO can? What if she is STONE COLD FOX? I think that scares me the most. If she is hot, I am gonna be like? What the hell is he doing with me? Oh, I get it! It is not sex with ME, not that he wanted ME, just wanted sex.
What to do???!! I still have almost two weeks left to freak out!!!!!
Kitty

I don't know if that helps. If I were you, I would dress to the nines and go to the party with a great attitude and be very aware of how you behave around your MM and/or his W and just have fun! Be really nice to her and just be yourself. She won't know anything is going on unless you slip (or he does), so just be very aware of all you say and do.
Good luck,
Pony
P.S. Sorry, didn't mean to ramble!
So just be careful, dont make alot of eye contact, dont spend alot of time chatting, but dont go the other way too much either.
I now can handle thing pretty well, just about 8 months back we all spent alot of time together in the Hospital with a friend who was losing her mom. I do not like the way she treats him, She came back later, and it was tuff to sit and chat with just her, listing to her complain about him, and all. Not a fan of hanging out with the wife.
I do also wonder what MM sees in me, his wife is attractive, but she is not really a nice person. She and I are nothing alike!
Good luck,
dayz
Don't worry what she looks like...there has to be something wrong w/ her to make him turn to someone else and you are the one he chooses to spend time with. Good Luck ! :o)
Mic