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Registered: 12-01-2003
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Wed, 12-03-2003 - 12:01am
I just started the A. It's been about three months.We've known each other for at least two years but never really got the opputunity to do more then flirt before then.It's been absolutely wonderful.But pretty scary to.I have alot at stake here and so does he.This A could cost us both our jobs. Not to mention his M.We've discussed the fact that we work together or more importantly that he's my boss.But neither of us are willing to give up the relationship.We haven't done more then kiss and cuddle but we both want more.He says we have to wait until "the right place,right time".Which has me very confused.Any advice I can get would be greatly appreciated.Thanks for listening it's nice to know that your not alone.
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Registered: 06-24-2003
In reply to: dareangel99
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 12:26am

Hi dareangel and welcome to the board,


"right place, right time" I'm guessing that he just means when he feels a little more comfortable with the situation... and that it can be a time when it's not a rushed thing... but don't quote me on that... it can be hard to understand men at times.


I take it your single... and in that area I'm certainly no expert at dealing with an EMA... both MM and I are married with children and we both have a great deal to lose... but we both understand our circumstances and protect one another and after 3 and a half years... neither of us is looking at walking away from the relationship.


My best advice though... is to understand what you want from the relationship and what expectations you have... can they be met by MM.

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