Horrible sex!

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Registered: 04-26-2003
Horrible sex!
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Wed, 12-03-2003 - 12:21am
Oh my! I have been in my A for about 11 months now. We (no, I) have tried to end it several times. I even started kind of seeing someone else. Well, I slept with the someone else this past weekend, and it was the most horrible experience!!!! I am not quite sure if it is just because I am still in love with my MM or if the other guy was just horrible! When my MM found out about it, he was pissed off! Told me that it disgusted him to even look at me...well, that was yesterday. Now today, everything is better than it was! I think he understood a little bit of what I go through with the feeling of him going home to his W every night! Now, I am in a little dilema. I still am very much in love with MM, he is still very much M!!! I don't know if that will ever change, of course I hope it does. Now, I could have a very comfortable life with this other guy, I can talk to him about anything, I enjoy spending time with him, but the sex was bad, and I know that he is in love with me. The problem I am trying to figure out is do I settle for the other guy, or do I wait and see what might happen with my MM, the one who has my heart and soul? Anyone have any answers?
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Registered: 11-13-2003
In reply to: myballcoach
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 12:56am
Follow your heart. Don't pacify yourself with bad sex. I am sure that you are aware that he may never leave his W, though.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: myballcoach
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 2:22pm
hey coach, here's an idea -- FIND ANOTHER SG!

dump the SG for the bad sex (believe me, it NEVER improves!) and keep your distance from MM since he's still very much married and i'll assume staying that way! if you're going to date, go for it. you deserve happiness, fun, respect. why stay home when there's a great, big world out there for you to see. MM can stay home if he so chooses, you don't have to! that's the beauty of being single - you get to do whatever you want, whenever you want.

don't "wait" for MM to make up his mind. it's already made up. and yes, he'll be jealous and nasty when and if you find someone to be with, but never, ever settle!! it's just not worth it.

gurl

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Registered: 11-12-2003
In reply to: myballcoach
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 2:32pm
i'm curious how your MM found out about your fling with this other man?...did you tell him in hopes of making him jealous and wanting the outcome of "today everything is better than it was!"?...how did he go from being disgusted to even look at you to better than ever in 24 hours?...i'd suspect your MM is still disgusted by your dalliance but will hold his tongue so as not to lose the sex he gets with you...

i'd say date more guys, one will fill all voids for you.....its often not a very wise idea to "wait and see" what will happen with a MM....my MM divorced after we were involved about 2 years but statistics show thats not common.

best to you...honey

    

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: myballcoach
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 2:40pm
Honey, I too am curios about how he found out. One thing I will say and please don't take this the wrong way. Maybe she needs to stop trying to fill her voids with a man and look with-in herself! Just a thought:) NMR
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Registered: 11-12-2003
In reply to: myballcoach
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 2:43pm
hey NMR!, i recognize your name from way back *S*...i've been a poster here for about 4 years now (not so much lately) and its good to see a familiar face...and i agree totally, its important women fill our own voids and not feel we *need* a man to make us happy.

hope alls well by you NMR.

honey

    

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: myballcoach
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 2:55pm
Happy to see you too! Strong women rule! Yes, everything is good with me. Thanks for asking:) NMR
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: myballcoach
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 2:58pm
hey girlie girls -- we all need to be happy within ourselves, but women seem to be better at making that happen for themselves. men tend to "stay" wherever they are because change is death!

WE WOMEN ROCK!!

gurl

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Registered: 07-10-2003
In reply to: myballcoach
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 9:37pm
a fishing troll....... wanting us to give her really bad advice.... sorry, jmho.....