I'm back again with a new adventure

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Registered: 04-03-2003
I'm back again with a new adventure
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Thu, 12-04-2003 - 11:03pm
Well I think the last time I was here was back in February when I broke up with my OM. Well now I'm back with a whole new adventure with another man.

My boyfriend is 27 with 3 kids. He's single. We've been seeing each other for a month now. I've told my husband about him. In fact they've met. I've told my husband that my boyfriend and I are in love with each other. My husband is still in love with me and he wants to win me back I guess you can say. I don't think I can make him understand that I don't want to be with him. However I'm not sure that I want to be with my boyfriend either. We are making plans on being together. It's so hard for me to get in to a long-term realationship with someone who has a family already when I don't want one.

I'm confused. I'm really head over heels with my boyfriend. I feel great when we are together. Still...

Ophelia's scar

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Registered: 10-23-2003
Fri, 12-05-2003 - 8:02am
Ophelia - it sounds like you're between a rock and a hard place...perhaps you should remove yourself from both situations for a short time to figure out what it is that YOU want. The way you describe the situation, neither of these men really are what you want...

Take some time to search your soul and keep the faith!

cl-liberalgirl

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 12-05-2003 - 1:09pm
hey ophelia -- careful now, girl! it's only been a month and you're considering a future with this guy already. keep in mind that he comes as a package deal with those kids and if you decide to leave your M, you better be ready to be a weekend "mama" to them, or whatever his custody arrangements are. if you can't see yourself doing anything besides having sex with new BF, stay in your M and see him on the side for as long as it lasts.

only leave your M if you want to be on your own, and it sounds like you're on the fence about being with either new BF and/or H. be your own woman and make your own decision, but keep in mind other people are involved, especially those kids!

good luck and stay true,

gurl