looks like it's over

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Registered: 11-30-2003
looks like it's over
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Sat, 12-06-2003 - 7:16pm
Got a call at work today from my OM and he basically decided that I either had to leave my H or he was not going to speak to me anymore. I was like, "whoa....where is this coming from?" He has known from the start of my A that I had no intention of leaving my H and we agreed to keep it that way. He also has a girlfriend. Apparently, he is so in love with me that if we can not be together than he does not want to talk to me anymore (his words not mine). So first of all, I am pissed cause he called me at WORK to discuss this. Totally inappropriate! I also don't know where this is coming from...we talked on the phone last night and everything was fine (at least I thought it was) So I told him that there is no way I am leaving H....there is nothing wrong with our marriage. I was wondering if it had anything to do with his GF and he said no. Change of feelings for me? He still says no....I waqs trying to figure it out, but I am at a loss. I asked OM if we could discuss it later and he said he needed time to be away from me before he can decide if we can go back to being friends (which is what we started as). So now, I have to wait and see if he ever contacts me again....I am not going to try and call or email him if he is going to blow me off. I am so totally confused here....don't really know what to think. I am certainly not going to cry or beg him to be with me, I just want an explanation. I don't get it....anyone else had to deal with something like this. How'd it turn out? Weird weird weird.....


Edited 12/6/2003 7:41:48 PM ET by lovinmymen2003
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Sat, 12-06-2003 - 10:08pm
lovinmymen, obviously he has very strong feelings for you. I think that he just can not handle the fact that you want to stay with your h. I bet it is hard for him. You know where you stand but he has let his heart affect his head. You need to talk to him when he decides he is ready for more....if not then let it be and know you are loved !

Wishing

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Registered: 11-30-2003
Sun, 12-07-2003 - 7:58am
*UPDATE*

OM called me at 2 am (luckilly H was not home). He said that he can't live without me in his life, and if I am not going to leave H then he still wants to be with me no matter what. Completely opposite of what he had said earlier in the day. I asked him why he keeps changing his mind. He said that he is scared because he loves me so much and he doesn't want to get hurt, but he also doesn't want to lose me. I am still confused in this situation and am wondering if I can deal with him doing this over and over again. Maybe it is best to just end it? I am certainly not going to leave H, and I know how OM feels about me, but how much more of this can I take? Werid weird weird....