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It's only the beginning, so many ???s
| Mon, 12-08-2003 - 10:57am |
Hello everyone
I just wanted to know (withOUT making a personal attack) how you all deal with the fact that you cheat on your significant others.
I feel like I'm on the edge, I'm in a LTR with a dear man, but we've been having problems, and I have met someone new. I'm not married, so I assume that my situation may be different than a lot of yours, but I would still love any advice, comments, etc. that you would care to give me.
I don't want to leave my DBF, for various reasons, but I am finding myself very very very attracted to another man. We have plans to meet for lunch on Tuesday, and this will be the first concrete sign of an A so far.
I used to think that everything was black and white, and that I would never "solve" my problems by cheating. But I have realized that there are a lot more shades of gray out there.
I would like to know if there are other out there, in a commited relationship who have been entertaining the possibility of spending your time with another (single) person. Lots of posts (though not all) that I have read have been people either married themselves, and carrying on with another married person, or a single whos dating a married person.
Again, I want to restate that I am NOT making a judgement on anyone. I just never thought I would be in this postion. What did everyone else think when they were starting thier A?
I just wanted to know (withOUT making a personal attack) how you all deal with the fact that you cheat on your significant others.
I feel like I'm on the edge, I'm in a LTR with a dear man, but we've been having problems, and I have met someone new. I'm not married, so I assume that my situation may be different than a lot of yours, but I would still love any advice, comments, etc. that you would care to give me.
I don't want to leave my DBF, for various reasons, but I am finding myself very very very attracted to another man. We have plans to meet for lunch on Tuesday, and this will be the first concrete sign of an A so far.
I used to think that everything was black and white, and that I would never "solve" my problems by cheating. But I have realized that there are a lot more shades of gray out there.
I would like to know if there are other out there, in a commited relationship who have been entertaining the possibility of spending your time with another (single) person. Lots of posts (though not all) that I have read have been people either married themselves, and carrying on with another married person, or a single whos dating a married person.
Again, I want to restate that I am NOT making a judgement on anyone. I just never thought I would be in this postion. What did everyone else think when they were starting thier A?

do you live with dbf?
How do you deal with lying and sneaking around? I feel like DBF knows me too well and will guess about my intentions.
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Hi and welcome aboard,
In the beginning of my EMA I was going through many marriage problems and at the time was very frustrated and angry with DH for what he had done to me and us... I think because of this anger... I didn't really feel a lot of guilt at the time.
However... I began to realise that my marriage problems were not all DH's and although he was a big part... I was not at fault either... so I began to slowly rebuild the barriers between us.
Sweet
Co-Community Leader My