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| Mon, 12-08-2003 - 1:51pm |
Although I am happily married I love my "W" It just seems that everywhere I go I am looking for something else. We have a loving marriage it just always seems like our sex life is lacking. We have discussed this and things change for a little while but things always go back. At 31 is it wrong to want sex several times a week. It almost seems OK to be looking for a EMA after all the effort I have put in to not have one and have my efforts go un rewarded. Does this make sense? I just want a little intimacy is wrong to want to have a sex in your life. If my "W" will not supply it do I have a choice but to look for it some where else?

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There are a lot of people with this same problem.
Turning to an affair may not be your answer.
Go there and read some of the posts. It may help you.
i'd suggest turn up your charms at HOME and i bet you will arouse your wife to new heights!...sneak some calls to her during the day like a MM will do to his mistress, telling her you just wanted to hear her voice, go home tonite and tell her how pretty and smart and marvelous she is, laugh at her jokes, tickle her fancy, brag to others in front of her what a wonderful woman she is, whisper in her ear while helping her clean up after dinner how sexy she is and how lucky you feel to have her in your life, and i have the feeling you'll find her breathless for you again....its not soo much sexual skills that produce a passionate sexlife, its flirting with a mate and treating them as a lover and not just a spouse that keeps the flames on high (IMHO).
honey
Good luck, post more!!
jen
This isn't something I am rushing into and this isn't the case of I wanted sex one night and didn't get it. I am a very understanding person but even I have my limits.
Don't get us wrong, having an affair is simply amazing and exhilarating... but there is a lot of pain involved too. The longer it goes on, the more complicated it becomes. Of course it's fun or nobody would do it, but there is also a downside to it too... Just be careful and try and work on the relationship with your wife first. Maybe you need to seduce her like you would another woman. Get a hotel room with candles, room service, rose petals on the bed, etc. etc.
Just my two cents!
To make matters worse she talked me in to moving to town I know no one so she could be closer to her mom. At least before we moved I had al my friends and family nearby.
I might as well be on a deserted island by myself. At least that is how my heart feels
Honestly, I understand what you are feeling and saying. I can't sit here and tell you to not go through with it, because I am in the middle of it myself. Well, sort of, we are trying to wean ourselves off of each other... anyway.... It sounds like you need the emotional intimacy as well as the physical intimacy... both are considered affairs if found outside the marriage.
Take care of you. If you feel like this will hang over your head until you do something about it, then do what you need to do, just be ready for whatever it is that may come from it. My MM and I have cried so many times on each other's shoulders concerning the fact that we have found each other and we can't be together... due to kids. Also, we truly love our spouses, but we aren't in love with them and haven't been for a very long time! Yes, the sex is great, having someone there emotionally is great too... but the pain that stems from it all in then end is HORRIBLE.
It sounds like you are doing everything that you can do for her and you definitely can't change her. I guess follow your heart, but make sure your mind isn't too far away.
~Serenity
Guess I was wrong. I would love to knwo there is someone out there that could show this does exsist.
Just be careful, it is SO easy to fall into something, even if it is for innocent reasons!
And i'll be honest with you I am looking to fall into something.
Are you near by wink wink
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