Things are really getting wierd...

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Registered: 05-21-2003
Things are really getting wierd...
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Tue, 12-09-2003 - 12:29pm
MM and I met because our kids are best friends. It's been about 7 years that we've been hanging out with the kids. We travel alot with the kids also. It's always just me and MM and the kids. The kids are now teenagers. Well both of our children know how bad our marriages are and they "think" me and MM should hook up after the divorces are final. His daughter has started calling me mom. I told him this will cause GREAT suspicion!!!!!!!! Right now it's normal when me and MM take them to dinner. They know we talk on the phone often also. You have to figure me and MM were just friends for so many years that all this was so normal at one time. Now I'm paranoid. I always think someone will notice the way I look at him. He also called me "baby" in front of his daughter once while we were on the phone. He said he got a very strange look. We're going out of town this weekend with the kids and I can't wait. We have so much fun together. I was just curious if anyone was as involved with the "other's" kids as I am. It's very strange. I also feel if anything happens there is potential for more heartache.

My daughter asks me all the time if it would be possible that me and M ever hook up. I would never want to loose the trust that I have with her. I hate lying.

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Registered: 10-06-2003
Tue, 12-09-2003 - 2:16pm
Secret,

I am very involved with MM's kids. Our older children are a year apart and have many of the same activities. We share responsibilities between us sometimes. I will pick his up or drop them off. His W and my H have very little to do with the kids. I do worry; as they get older that they will pick up on things. His daughter and I get along great, I joked in the beginning, that girls scare me. But she and I talk a lot now, her mom works so much, so we have formed a bond. She did say one day when I dropped her off that she wished that I lived with them. I worry that when MM and I do get together, that she will feel betrayed. It is common for MM and I to talk on the phone with the kids around, so we too have to be careful, sometimes I hear her ask her dad is that mom? Girls are smart, they pick up on things. I too worry that when we go to games others see us they will ASSUME, you know how fast news like that travels. We are SOOOO careful!

Sounds like you and MM have a great R, how long has it been going on?

What are you plans?

dayz

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Registered: 05-21-2003
Tue, 12-09-2003 - 3:06pm
Dayz, we have been friends for years. But our A just started about 6 months ago. I feel like it's been going on forever though. We are so close. We do everything together because of the kids. My H has never met MM. My daughter is my H's stepdaughter and they aren't close. I have only scene MM's wife maybe 3 times in seven years. She doesn't involve herself at all in her daughter's lives. Strange. We get to see eachother almost everyday. As far as I know everyone is clueless. I pray it stays that way. MM is getting a divorce for sure. I have asked for one but my h is begging me to stay. I haven't been in love for a while with H. I never would of started the A if I was still in love with H. I was just so desperate for love. We have no plans of now. We are just taking it slow.
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Registered: 12-07-2003
Tue, 12-09-2003 - 5:45pm
With my situation right now (me single, him married), we became friends first through the kids. He has two girls, as do I, and they're all pretty close in age. The kids spend the night with me often. I guess that kind of gives me an excuse to have him over. His W works some nights and one day over the weekend, and that's the time when the kids hang out at his house. As I'm writing this, I have his youngest here with me, and he just stopped by to check on her. It scares me sometimes what would happen if his W finds out about us. My kids would each lose good friends. Guess I'll cross that bridge if I ever get to it!!