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| Wed, 12-10-2003 - 11:28am |
you sound very down today! Just been reading through everything this morning and your posts caught my attention. How are things with you and Foxy?...come on, spill your guts and tell us. Let it out!!
Charlotte

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Edited 4/26/2004 2:20 pm ET ET by boston53
just because foxy is living her everyday life (as you are) doesn't mean you are a fool for loving her! but reality IS her marriage, the holidays, she's with someone else, going somewhere else and you're by yourself, or at least, without her. just the facts, sweetie. sorry to have to point that out, again.
now what can you do about it? how about looking forward to the next time you two are together? how about getting out with friends and family, even if you don't really feel like it. buy foxy something and wrap it up and give it to her the next time you are together, even if she cannot keep it.
You are not any of the things you have mentioned. You are in love with her and this is no easy thing. It’s the holiday season, and yes, she’s married, so of course she will be off with her H, family, etc. (I'm sure you expected this -- I guess you didn't plan on how much it would hurt when you heard it). But, gurl is right -- look forward to her return, remember that she will be thinking of you, plan something special for her, go out shopping for her (although, I believe shopping therapy is only known to help women:). Keep busy. If you think along these lines you’d be surprised how easily you can snap yourself out of it.
Boston -- she is thinking of you. My MM is in my mind all the time -- I can’t get him out even when I try (and we haven’t confessed feelings for each other like you two have). Keep remembering that while she is with HIM, she is thinking of YOU!!
As far as her leaving her husband, just take this one day at a time and see how your relationship progresses. Be strong and confident (even if you aren't inside). One day at a time!! Remember, “Life is what happens to you while your busy making other plans.” John Lennon
Charlotte
(quoted my quote wrong!)
Edited 12/11/2003 9:45:31 AM ET by charlotte1203
Great advice as usual, my fellow in-another-lifetime groupie wannabe!!!!
I'm outta here for the day....
Charlotte
boston, honey, hang in there. life will look better in a minute!!
gurl
MM told you when he would be gone for the holiday stuff so right there, you know, he's considerate of your feelings by keeping you in the loop for his plans. just be careful you don't push him away because of his "perceived" non-responsiveness.
write to him, but also tell him how you feel if you're hurting or upset. i'm sure your MM will calm you down and make sure you are feeling better even if you can't see each other as much as before.
hang in there, honey!
gurl
That's an excellent point, gurl! I have been reading lilah's post a lot here and she seem to so afraid of rejection and I think (I don't know her first hand) pride plays into a lot of her troubles. lilah this is not a bash, but gurl makes an excellent point that I couldn't stress enough myself!!
Edited 12/10/2003 3:45:41 PM ET by learning_french
Yippee!! You like ME, you like ME!!
Love that Lennon line...always in the back of my mind.
Edited 4/26/2004 2:22 pm ET ET by boston53
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