unexpected affair

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unexpected affair
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Wed, 03-10-2004 - 12:08pm
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Edited 11/24/2004 2:09 pm ET ET by buffalobillie
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Wed, 03-10-2004 - 1:42pm

hi buffalobillie and welcome to the board!


if OM is freaked out over almost being caught out, maybe a short period of NC might be in order.

CL-Gurlfriend50

Co-CL of My Affair Support Board

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Wed, 03-10-2004 - 3:23pm
I just wanted to say that I know exactly what you're feeling! We've had someone asking questions and OM is freaked - the thought of losing what we have is weighing very heavily on my heart. I assume I use those rose-colored glasses a bit, but in spite of my feelings for my H, OM adds something to my life and helps me to keep my head on straight. I wish you the best.
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Wed, 03-10-2004 - 4:10pm
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Edited 11/24/2004 2:10 pm ET ET by buffalobillie
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Wed, 03-10-2004 - 4:54pm
billie, life is always like that. We always doing things we thought will never do or saying things that are not at all true.... I mean, who expected me to lie or cheat, not even myself!! LOL Everything is unexpected in ths life and as long as they are not unpleasant please feel free to enjoy it. However, if doubts start to creep up, you know its time to end it. You should do what is right for you not be swayed by either man. Good Luck!
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Wed, 03-10-2004 - 10:43pm

Hi buffalobillie and welcome,


I am inclined to agree with Gurl... that if your OM is a little freaked about things... then take some time out and let things settle... it may also allow you both to do some very indepth thinking about the whole thing.


I'm a believer that it is possible to keep the marriages together and maintain a wonderful affair on the side... MM and I have been doing it for almost 4 years now... but believe you me... it's not a walk in the park.


MM and I are both married with small children and neither of us is prepared or even wants to walk away from our respective marriages... we are on a level playing field and understand each other and the relationship that we have.

Sweet
Co-Community Leader My

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Thu, 03-11-2004 - 10:57am
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Edited 11/24/2004 2:11 pm ET ET by buffalobillie