Help! I don't want to be a mistress!

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Help! I don't want to be a mistress!
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Thu, 03-11-2004 - 1:03pm
I am the OW. I've never been married and have no children. My MM is in a bad relationship with his wife or so he says. They sleep in seperate beds and from what he says she is very moody and highly strung. I didn't want to fall in love with him, but I have. He tells me he loves me too. He says he stays in the relationship because of his children they are 10 and 12. As good as he makes me feel. And as destroyed as I will be with out him. I don't want tidbits of time here and there. I want the real thing. I wish I never met him and I want it to be over. I tried to break things off and it lasted four days. We have an incredible bond, but I can't live like this......as scared as I am of growing old alone and never having children I am so miserable I cry all the time. If anyone has any advice on leaving and sticking to it, or even some encouragement.
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Registered: 01-21-2004
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 3:14pm

hi tkikimax and welcome to the board!


honey, if you want the real thing, then you have to end your R/A with MM and be available for single men who want to actually date you and possibly have a future!

CL-Gurlfriend50

Co-CL of My Affair Support Board

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Registered: 02-29-2004
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 3:44pm
Hi Tiki....

Gurlfriend hit it right on the head! You do deserve better treatment then you are getting, and honestly, until he is finally out of your life, you will always find it difficult to move on to greener pastures!

Once you have found the love of your life, and how they make you smile and feel butterflies in your stomach... just them being devoted to you and ONLY you, committed...Trust me, I don't think you would ever look back.....and you'll probably wonder why you even why you even went thru that!

Just my Opinion, but we're here for you if you ever need someone to talk to..

let us know how it goes

Take care sweetie

talu skylaa@hotmail.com