Not over afterall...
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| Fri, 03-12-2004 - 2:58am |
He came by and we talked for about an hour and a half. We cried and talked and hugged. He smoothed things over with the wife after he left here. He still Loves me, wants nothing to change, didn't mean what he had said this morning.
He knows he screwed up royally in the trust department with me. He's gonig to have to "earn" my trust in the "abondonment" department (his words). He just got wound up and didn't mean what he said, wasn't expecting the wife to say everything she said.
The fact is i don't want to end it right now, i *am* happy, so we're giving it another chance.
Thank you so much for all who posted to my sad post. i am still a bit sad because my trust was damaged. But i can understand saying something you don't mean in an emotional moment. i read and re-read all your posts becuase i know someday this will be over, i just hope it's isn't for a long time and that it isn't quite so abrupt.
Shortest breakup in the history of the world huh? He used the words hopelessly in love. Gotta give him credit for that LOL.
Thanks to all for understanding and being supportive,
jen

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Dusty
whew, jenn, thank goodness MM came back, on his knees begging for you back!!
CL-Gurlfriend50
Co-CL of My Affair Support Board
Thanks for everyone's well wishes, yeah, nice to know he's as in love as i am. He said he didn't think he "could" stop seeing me cuz he loves me so much. He definitely said all the right things.
Gurl, yes suffering will ensue, but i won't make it too bad. Nothing worse then what i was going through yesterday! MEN!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks ladies you are the best,
jen
I know a friend whose realtive is right now doing this living with his wife and OW. None of them believe or follow Islam either. The wife lives one side of their house and the OW in another. I don't know the legal implications and such, but the OW and him are not married (even if they did it wouldn't be legal anyway). They all have share meals with the kids (I think the OW has one kid with him). I don't how they pull it all off but I was very surprised to know they all were happy too. I personally do not know if I would do it, yikes, but in some situations it does work.
Juliet
PS: I would be probably be sneaking off with the OM than the H and that would create more problems than anything I am sure. Not sure if my OM will even consider it. LOL
Edited 3/12/2004 11:47 am ET ET by julietsfate
I _might_ be able to handle that type of relationship, but I guarandamtee that W wouldn't! (She doesn't even like him talking online...Of course, she has a point. That's how _we_ met! ROFL)
Actually, to Jenn, I'm happy for you. Enjoy the time you have with him and best of luck!
Cazrida
Don't know you - haven't posted to you before, but had to say this. I find it ironic you find your trust damaged - please! All of us are violating trust by what we do. I know you are/were hurt but really, upset because your trust is broken or whatever??? Come on!!
BTW, are you jiminy cricket or the insect like as in the pest? :-)
Cricket.. my MM have a relationship. Any relationship, especially one where feelings of love, and sex are involved, will have trust. Some relationships have a little trust and some have alot.
If i explained all the intricacies of MM's and my relationship, this would be the longest post ever. You will just have to believe me that trust is a huge issue for him and me, and this "argument" (for lack of a better word) is a pretty big hurdle to overcome.
If you are implying that trust between MM and his wife is broken or damaged you are correct. However, that is between my MM and his wife. That is their relationship, and this is mine.
i knew somenoe was going to "go there" when i posted this, but.. i am happy MM i were only "broken up" for 2 hours. i have never trusted any man as much as my MM and we are on our way to repairing the damage that was done.
~jen
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