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| Fri, 03-12-2004 - 2:27pm |
God men are infuriating...
Well, my MM at least...
I've been having a crappy week...and I'm getting these curt little e-mails from him...
Haven't talked to him either on the phone or IM for over a week...and now he's going to be here in the Twin Cities with his wife this weekend to see his daughter's band play...
I'm frustrated and I'm pissed...
I knew this was going to be tough because of the logistics, but it hurts to not even get a call from him all week...
I'm about ready to end it and start seeing this other man who wants me desperately...my MM always told me to keep my "options" open...
I'm just confuzzled I guess...
~Laurie~

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Then you can ditch the other guy if he's not up to par, but hey what if he exceeds all expectations??
Good Luck
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Hot
I guess I had just thought I was more important to him than the way he's acting...
He's always saying how busy he is, but he's the owner of the company...you would think if he WANTED to make a few minutes to call me he could...
Just shows me where I fit on his priority list...
The last time he was here with the wife he called me from his hotel while she was gone...it'll be interesting to see if I get one this weekend while he's here...
I'm not going to hold my breath, though...
It's his next move, though...
Hope you all have great weekends!!!
~Laurie~
Some married men are serial cheaters. Then there are the other kind who fall in love and get involved. These men are torn between their families and their new love. It can be heart breaking for all.
It would be best to find someone unattached.
Just my gut feeling but I think you're someone's wife whose hubby is or has been cheating on you...
Sorry, but my MM...and the other that's ready to sweep me off my feet are a hell of a lot more fascinating than any of the UNATTACHED ones I've met...
I knew going into this that I could be hurt...but the pro's outweigh the cons...
But then plenty of other times, like this week for example, we'll talk back and forth on the computer for hours on end.
So I know he is trying to give me the time when he can. You just have to realize, its not always easy. And after not seeing each other last week, we did get together for a few hours this afternoon. It was heaven!!
If you have patience you will be okay. But I don't know you're whole story, like distance etc. My Mm lives in a different city (different country even). But he comes over to my country to visit me as much as he can, that's about 2-4 times a month.
If you aren't happy with the way things are, maybe you are best to find someone closer and more available for you. Because this is something that you want to make you feel good, not bad, and if it starts not being fun, well then you have to set your priorities too.
For us, it works out pretty good. Although I didn't hear from him for several weeks this past fall, and it was hell.
So be prepared, if you stick with it, you will have some great times but also realize there will be the low times, when he's too busy or whatever and you can't see/hear from him. Alot of our situations are the same, as you will see if you read alot of the posts.
Take care,
Dusty
I guess that's what getting to me...when we first got together, we talked on im's all the time...he made the time for me...but it seems as now he "has" me, the thrill is gone for him...
Maybe I've just been blowing it all out of proportion, and he's just really been busy...
I hope so, because this hasn't just been a "sex" thing...it's been very emotional, too...
Hopefully he'll have a chance to call while he's down here...the last time they were here, she was at a seminar, and he called me...she was off learning about arthritis and water aerobics, and he and I were getting each other off...LOL...
We've had too many good times together...I just need to settle down...
I've just been feeling "yuckeroo" as he says...and the stress has been getting to me...
Thanks so much...
~Laurie~
I don't post a whole lot here, but I do read the board often and get so much out of it. I agree with everything Dusty said to you in her message. It's definitely a roller coaster ride, and there are lows and highs. But they tend to be much "higher" and "lower" than what we experience in relationships with unattached men. Part of it is because there's so little we can do to initiate things. At least in my case, I don't call him (his W takes his cell a lot to use b/c he has lots of free minutes) and so it's very reactive rather than proactive. It can be extremely frustrating, and I find myself thinking, "Why isn't he calling? I'm sure he had an opprtunity there SOMEWHERE." Most weekends I don't hear from him at all.
The bottom line is, does it feel mostly good or does it feel mostly bad? I know that answer varies from day to day, but you have to try to judge it overall. I'm not sure I've come to a conclusion yet on that one, and I often think about ending it. Then, of course wouldn't you know it, he calls and I feel this great connection between us and I'm right back in it.
One thing I have going for me is that I do see someone else. It's not all that defined or serious, but it is someone who I can go out with a have a great time and feel lovely around. (My MM knows this guy exists and is actually happy about it, probably because it makes him feel less guilt.)
Good luck to you. All the best!
Sugarbee
It's kind of like being bi-polar...or manic-depressive...
I won't apologize to him about my feelings, but I probably owe him one for all the doubts...
This board has helped me put it into perspective...
I probably shot myself in the foot a bit, too, because I was so worried about his getting caught...talking to him about my phone number showing up on his cell bill so often...and on his HOME phone bill, on top of it...and when I asked him, he said his wife doesn't see any of the bills...even the home phone bills...
Hopefully I'll get a call from him while he's here...if not, I'll see what happens when he gets home...and in the meantime, I'll see where the other man wants to go with sweeping me off my feet...
Thanks again!
~Laurie~
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