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| Sat, 03-13-2004 - 9:51pm |
I've been wondering how many of you get any financial help from your MM, in any form, shopping, vacations, help if needed.... do you feel sometimes it fills the gap of your MM being not fully available? Hmmmm....what if you could barely make both ends meet while he's very well off? Would it bother you at all? Be honest ladies :)

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If you were dating a single man who was "very well off" would you expect him to provide financial support?
And how can money ever "fill the gap of your MM not being fully available"? You knew at the outset that he was married and not fully available! If what you want is someone who is 'fully available' then end the relationship with MM and find someone who can be fully available.
He buys me all my groceries and gives me gas money, and he's always there for a loan or a few bucks. i think it's mostly just out of love. i mean, if i had money, and i loved someone who was struggling, i may not give them everything, but i certainly would help a little where i could. i don't "expect" him to do anything, anything he does he does because he loves me and wnats my life to be a little easier.
i think it's kind of a typical way for guys to express themselves and their love.
JMHO
jen
He did make my life easier and I appreciate his help a lot. I love this man and I know this comes from the bottom of his heart. He's a wonderful man.
Later
SB
Seeburg
The only money I would accept from MM would be for lunch or a drink... we both have families to support... and we are about the same money wise... although being that his wife works part time and their parents care for the kids... they would be slightly better off that DH and I.
Sweet
Co-Community Leader My
that being said, i think if it were a FWB's situation, i would be much less willing to accept. i think every relatinoship is just very different.
jen
that's the thing Jen... everyone's relationship is different! really... in reality... the only thing we all have in common is that we are either married or seeing someone who is married... and that we want a little support and understanding from one another.
In your circumstances... it truly sounds like MM just wants to help out a little... he doesn't over do it.
Sweet
Co-Community Leader My
I didn't get with him because of the money, but what sucks is how much money the wife is getting now. She makes about $60,000 on her own, but now gets about an extra $2500/month in child support and he pays for every expense the children want and need. I agree with it and believe that he should pay for them, but on top of the child support she gets the big house, the new car, and half of all of his savings. And let me tell you she is taking him to the cleaners. Mostly because she found out about me. I think he is willing to give her everything just to be rid of her. We are planning to start a life together, but will be paying her a few more years so that makes money tight for us. I think the children are worth the money. That's not the problem. The problem is that "she has to live the life that she is accustomed to" according to the lawyer. So I think $60,000 + $2500/month + the house + the car is pretty comfortable. But now she gets his savings, which is a lot. He's 43 and was planning retirement in 5 years. And he is not living the life he is accustomed to right now. A little dinky house, an old car and now a lot of debt. Doesn't seem fair.
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