What a horrible weekend....

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Registered: 01-28-2004
What a horrible weekend....
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Mon, 03-15-2004 - 9:33am
I don't even know where to start - I went to happy hour friday night - I called OM at home - we talked for 5 minutes - that was it. My H found his number in my cell phone - I lied and said it was something else - he found the number on old bills - I told him this guy was my friend but that's it - he is totally freaked out.

I told OM this morning that it's over. We can't see each other any more. I want to make my marraige work...H is SO upset and hurt - I keep insisting that nothing happened but he doesn't believe me. He said if it wasn't for the kids he'd be gone. I don't know what is going to happen - the past 2 days have been a nightmare. I can't function at work and H is jealous b/c he knows that OM works here too and that we will see each other.

Any advice? I'll answer any questions too - I know I left a lot out.

Thanks,

no longer T's secret

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Registered: 02-16-2004
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 9:43am
I have always been paranoid about the cell phone and the bills. I put my cell phone bills to electronic only so that the paper bills aren't sent to the house. I try to remember to clear out my call history on my phone before I get to the house. But, I've always been afraid H would still figure something out. Since H and I are going through a D right now, I told MM not to call me on my cell right now for a while. Boy, I'll be glad to get my own phone.

T, just keep denying everything....hopefully you and H can make it work. I'll be thinking of you!

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 10:00am
Sorry T, about you bad weekend. I too share the cell with H so, I don't expect OM to call me on it or even call him on it. I use the pay phone if I have to and luckily it only a local call for me. Just keep denying anything about H might conclude about the call. Good Luck on trying to work out the marriage.
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Registered: 02-03-2004
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 10:20am
Best advice --- DENY DENY DENY. And when that doesn't seem to be working, DENY. Honey, he only has suspicions. Just keep cool, don't let him get you upset (at least not on the outside), try and keep things as even as possible. I had a really close call this weekend too, but the "we're just friends" then continually acting like there is no reason to feel guily is paying off. We'll be thinking of you. Just stay strong.
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 10:23am
HI T

You do not want your husband catching you in any more Lies, if he is going to discover the truth it is better that you tell him first so that he knows that you really want to work things out, if he finds stuff out 6 weeks from now that you with held or lied about kiss your marriage goodby because it is seen as ongoing betrayal by the spouse.

It's to late for the DENY DENY DENY mind set.

F