MM said I love you!

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Registered: 04-16-2003
MM said I love you!
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Wed, 03-17-2004 - 7:45am
My MM and i just got over a fight. I told him that i would sick of only seeing him every three months. He then said that I should know how he feels and to never give up on him. I also told him that i noticed that i ever since his wife was pregent he has stopped seeing me. Then i seen him on Monday. This time it was differnet. We made love for the first time in a year and half. Our relationship has alwasy been about just sex. I NEVER tell him my true feelings that I love him. I know he will run. But during lovemaking he said I LOVE YOU!. I did not say anything back. I was just in pure shoock. So due to he said that in lovemaking should i think he really meant it?? Or was he just all swept in the lovemaking that he said something that just slipped out? It has been a year and half and im sooooo in love with this man. I have tryed to let go but end up back with him.
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Registered: 12-02-2003
Wed, 03-17-2004 - 9:37am
I am not sure if he meant it or not. If you want to know ask him. Bring it up. Say the other day you said you loved me? Let's talk about it. The only way you will know is to always have open communication. If you have secrets from your MM then why bother have an A. Well, at least for me my A is about having an openness I have never shared before.

I do remember though those butterflies in my stomach the first time I heard MM say that he loved me. It melted my heart. It was awesome. I am very much in love w/ my MM. I cannot get enough of him. And remember I believe that if it was "all" about sex then he wouldn't have stayed for a year and a half.

Les

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Wed, 03-17-2004 - 9:44am
You've been seeing this MM for quite a long time, do you really think it would just "slip out of his mouth" if he didn't mean it?

That is really nice/scary isn't it?

I have been seeing my MM for more than 2 years now, its a physical relationship between us, although the L word has never been spoken, the most we've said before was we were fond of each other. I wish I could believe that when you've been with someone for that length of time, that it is more than just the sex, but I don't know about men.

Although really I do have more feelings for him but like you, I wouldn't say anything because he would probably think I'm in too deep and end it.

I only wish he would reciprocate the feelings. That must be awesome.

Dusty
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Registered: 05-16-2003
Wed, 03-17-2004 - 12:38pm
wow angell.. how are you feeling now? what are you gonna do with those words? I know if my mm said those words to me, I wouldn't know how to react. We've been in a sexual A for over a year now. I also try to hide my feelings, but I also have a guard around my heart. I think that's what you should do too! I know for me it would be a little akward asking him what he meant by those words. I'm a believer if you say I love you, then you mean it and if you don't mean it, then DON'T say those words. I don't say them to my H. Which is horrible. But I believe I don't love him. In that married way anyway.

Let us know what happens

Gina
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Registered: 10-13-2003
Wed, 03-17-2004 - 12:44pm

Wow, Angel!

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Registered: 02-17-2004
Wed, 03-17-2004 - 3:47pm
I'm happy for you, because I know how awesome that is when he finally says the L word. I'll never forget the first time my MM told me he loved me, I was sooooo incredibly happy! Mine said it like that too, the first time he said it was in bed, but if he's anything like my MM he'll say it again and again etc. I have to admit though, that I'm still afraid to say it to him first. I probably should though, because he's been asking me if I love him a lot lately. I always say of course. Are you going to say it back?

We have a lot in common. Me and my MM only get to see each other about every 3 months also. And we just went thru the whole wife being pregnant thing too. That was really tough! how did you do through that? Iv'e also tried on many occasions to break it off, but it seems like no matter what we always end up back together.

Well... let me know how things go.

Unsure

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Registered: 04-16-2003
Sun, 03-21-2004 - 8:35pm
you are so right. I feel so close to you. I would love to talk to give you my email and we can keep eachother going in hard times??? Leggs4u2go@yahoo.com. Thanks for being there group