Hello Hot, I'm really glad to hear things worked out for you. Its nice to hear someone happy. I'm feeling a little down today.
MM is out of town for a few days, he said we'll get together next week.
I was just thinking back though, over this really long NC time we had this fall. It really killed me going through that.
Because like you, I said to myself I didn't love him.
But I think that really we are fooling ourselves. Otherwise, why do we get so upset when we don't hear from them?
It was a pure heartache for me the last time. I can manage okay if I don't hear from him for a few days, it kind of goes with the territory. But if I have to go through another long NC again, I just don't know if I will emotionally make it again. Just thinking about that time makes me want to cry.
Hi again. Well our NC was because he was really busy at work, then he was ill, kids started a new school, blah blah blah.
It was just such a shock for me, because we'd been seeing each other regularly for 2 years and talked every workday on the computer almost without fail. And then all of a sudden, just nothing, no goodbye, I need a break, or anything.
But to just one day not hear from him, then that turned into another day, then another ... before you know it several weeks had gone by.
I'm glad you are happy and we were able to help you get thru this. And I will be okay really, I know I will probably see him next week. I have to say, since we got back together in Nov., he has been very attentive in keeping contact with me and seeing me on a regular basis.
Its just that ... sometimes I think back about that time, it was one of the lowest points in my life. I don't think he knows how much I care about him, I will not tell him.
I relate to your posting. I have had an affair with a MM for 9 years of the 18 I have been married. I feel like I must have him in my life. He is my soulmate. Had we both not had kids, I would have divorced my husband and married him. I think he would have as well.
I would never hurt him. It has been proven over and over that he would not hurt me. He is my friend and lover.
My H is a wonderful man. He is patient, kind and giving. But he is boring and I just don't have passion with him or for him. If he ever found out about my affair, it would devistate him. I love him but I am not IN love with him. Without my affair, I would not have remained in the marriage.
I don't condone others having an affair. Maybe I am just lucky, but frankly, I have the best of all worlds. I have a fine husband and a wonderful lover. For 9 years it has worked.
MM is out of town for a few days, he said we'll get together next week.
I was just thinking back though, over this really long NC time we had this fall. It really killed me going through that.
Because like you, I said to myself I didn't love him.
But I think that really we are fooling ourselves. Otherwise, why do we get so upset when we don't hear from them?
It was a pure heartache for me the last time. I can manage okay if I don't hear from him for a few days, it kind of goes with the territory. But if I have to go through another long NC again, I just don't know if I will emotionally make it again. Just thinking about that time makes me want to cry.
Dusty
Dusty, Im sorry youre alittle sad today.
Hot
It was just such a shock for me, because we'd been seeing each other regularly for 2 years and talked every workday on the computer almost without fail. And then all of a sudden, just nothing, no goodbye, I need a break, or anything.
But to just one day not hear from him, then that turned into another day, then another ... before you know it several weeks had gone by.
I'm glad you are happy and we were able to help you get thru this. And I will be okay really, I know I will probably see him next week. I have to say, since we got back together in Nov., he has been very attentive in keeping contact with me and seeing me on a regular basis.
Its just that ... sometimes I think back about that time, it was one of the lowest points in my life. I don't think he knows how much I care about him, I will not tell him.
I think it would scare him away.
Dusty
I relate to your posting. I have had an affair with a MM for 9 years of the 18 I have been married. I feel like I must have him in my life. He is my soulmate. Had we both not had kids, I would have divorced my husband and married him. I think he would have as well.
I would never hurt him. It has been proven over and over that he would not hurt me. He is my friend and lover.
My H is a wonderful man. He is patient, kind and giving. But he is boring and I just don't have passion with him or for him. If he ever found out about my affair, it would devistate him. I love him but I am not IN love with him. Without my affair, I would not have remained in the marriage.
I don't condone others having an affair. Maybe I am just lucky, but frankly, I have the best of all worlds. I have a fine husband and a wonderful lover. For 9 years it has worked.
Good luck.