Keeping it a secret vs. needing alibi
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Keeping it a secret vs. needing alibi
| Fri, 03-19-2004 - 9:57am |
Question for all you experts out there (which you all are...I am amazed by some of the advice I see posted on this board...ya'll are the best!).
Keeping it a secret is clearly important, but at the same time I need an advocate for helping to creat alibis.
If I am ever going to be able to sneak out of the house for a few hours for a quicky in the car (like he wanted me to do on monday night - but I couldn't think of an excuse) I am going to need a best friend/advocate who can back up my stories should I need to escape husband and kids for a few hours unexpectedly.
What do I do?
Does any one have any iron clad excuses that they use in situations like this that would not require the need of a friend to back up the story if need be...
OM and H are both out of town this week, so no need for any immediate stories, but I want to be prepared with an alibi waiting in my "hat" the next time OM extends an invitation like he did on Monday...
Keeping it a secret is clearly important, but at the same time I need an advocate for helping to creat alibis.
If I am ever going to be able to sneak out of the house for a few hours for a quicky in the car (like he wanted me to do on monday night - but I couldn't think of an excuse) I am going to need a best friend/advocate who can back up my stories should I need to escape husband and kids for a few hours unexpectedly.
What do I do?
Does any one have any iron clad excuses that they use in situations like this that would not require the need of a friend to back up the story if need be...
OM and H are both out of town this week, so no need for any immediate stories, but I want to be prepared with an alibi waiting in my "hat" the next time OM extends an invitation like he did on Monday...

What about going shopping to pick up a few things.. just after you really do have to go get a few things..LOL
i know those are the classic ones, I use those. My H doesn't "catch on" easily. I know it's low to say, but it works..LOL..
maybe someone can add some ideas for you..
chrissluver
I've invited H to go with me to the gym, he always declines. Anyways, I don't meet MM during the evening or weekends anyways. But if I did, that would be my story, and I'd be sticking to it !!
dusty
But I do have a friend, she knows everything, and I use her when I want like a Saturday with OM. I'm going to visit so and so. Then I call her and talk to her on the way there, and all the way home, so she helps me come up with what we did together and I can dish about what I really did with OM.
Anyway - for me, work is a great excuse - and the stopping at the store one too. If I was home and had to head out, I'd try the vague "errands" - although sometimes H wants details; have a few things that you've been meaning to do ready - keep stuff for Goodwill in your trunk etc. Would it be weird if you said you were going to a movie? Sometimes I try the "I need time to myself" track . . .
Good luck!!
No one (besides you ladies and gents, lol) know about my MM and me.
Because I don't know about you, but I cannot face my H and lie to his face about where I am going. He would definitely be able to see right thru me.
I feel alot safer the way we are doing it, I don't have to make up any excuses as to where i am, who I am with. I'm at work, H's at work. He never calls me during the day and for the past 2 years, its been working out very comfortably for us. Good luck to you!
Dusty