I told MM ........

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Registered: 11-21-2003
I told MM ........
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Mon, 03-22-2004 - 11:20pm
that i couldn't do this anymore. I love him very much but I feel like I am the bottom of his list of priorities, like my life is scheduled around everyone elses schedules. I know this sounds childish.I was not asking to be first in his life

To be more specific, today was our day to spend together, his wife was home sick from work. I know that it was not his fault, but when we talked this morning all i heard about was how rotten his night was at work, and when we chatted this morning I heard about how she has to be very sick to miss work. Not once did he ask how I was doing. I have a cold and was running a fever all day. Maybe I was being selfish, wanting him to be concerned about me. who knows?

Two weeks ago we were laying in bed talking afterwards and he called me his partner, then quickly said it was a partner in crime not a life partner. That cut to the bone.

This morning I told him I was sorry he had a bad night, he replied that it wasn't my place to be sorry. I asked him to please explain that to which he said i had enough to worry about without worrying about him. All I was trying to tell him was that I was sorry that he had a bad night at work. Don't we all want things to go smoothly for the ones we care about? Maybe I took it wrong but it was like he was telling me that I had stepped out of line when i was just showing concern for him.

I know that I hurt him when I said I couldn't do this anymore, I know that he loves me as much as I love him. I hurt too, but didnt see any other way around these issues.

I really debated posting this on here because he reads this board also, but I am feeling alot of emotions right now and don't know where else to turn for advice.

Any one been in my situation and have any good advice to give? It will be greatly appreciated

Thanks for letting me vent

SB

 Seeburg    

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Tue, 03-23-2004 - 6:41am
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Edited 3/23/2004 8:54 am ET ET by seeburg2003

 Seeburg    

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Registered: 04-16-2003
Tue, 03-23-2004 - 7:33am
Good for you! Stay strong. Im almost where you are now. He needs to valadate your feelings. He sounds too self centered. Good luck to you.
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Registered: 02-16-2004
Tue, 03-23-2004 - 7:58am
You are a strong woman for sticking to your guns and making him realize that even though you didn't ask to be first priority in his life, you didn't ask to be dead last. You deserve much, much more. I have a great deal of respect for you.
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Registered: 09-16-2003
Tue, 03-23-2004 - 8:55am
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Edited 4/27/2004 10:20 am ET ET by julietsfate