What the heck am i doing?

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Registered: 07-17-2003
What the heck am i doing?
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Tue, 03-23-2004 - 3:06pm
Okay so a couple of weeks ago, I was on a business trip and I met a guy. We hung out, with a group and all, and then we both wanted to check out some club and we went. Hung out, danced and talked. Good time. Then he kissed me.. and I kissed him back. We had a great rest of the night (dancing!) We work for the same company, just in different states.

Now he e mails me calls me all the time and tells me that he had such a great time and he can't wait to see me again, and that I am the perfect girl for him. We get along so great and are so insync with each other. Problem is - he is married with 2 kids. I have a boyfriend that i thought I was in love with and we are supposed to get married next summer. I have been tempted before, butnever acted on it, because it wasn't something I wanted. This man obviously had what I wanted becasue I didn't hesitate.

I love my boyfriend and want to be with him. we are going through some problems right now, he has relocated his job and I am looking for one in the area, but it hasn't been that easy for me, so we are doing the long distance thing until. But now that this has happened it makes me re-think what I am doing with him. If youlove someone the way you should, temptation wouldn't enter the picture. You tell people your "off the market"

right?

So on one side I have this MM filling my head with all kinds of lovey dovey stuff, but he never says anything about how he feels about cheating on his wife. and he looks forward to doing it again. I'll be in his state in a month to visit his company (ironic)

and he can't wait to see me and kiss me and talk to me. (keeping it PG)

I on the other hand have flirted a little bit with him since we have both been back to our own homes, but not to his extent. I admit I am curious to more, but in the same sense scared out of my wits about what I could be doing to all parites involved.

Needless to say any advice would be great.

Thanks,

Tina

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2003
Tue, 03-23-2004 - 6:13pm
HI Tina

You may have reacted the way you did because you feeling disconnected from B/F right now what with the distance thing going on.

People that love there spouse are tempted all the time just like everyone else, it is just a matter of controling yourself and remembering way you love that person.

Make sure you understand that MM is out to have some fun and your it, don't be quick to buy his lines your not the first woman he has used them on and your not likely to be the last.

F

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-14-2004
Tue, 03-23-2004 - 8:40pm
Why on earth would you want to help this guy destroy his own family? If he cant be bothered to think of his own kids and the woman that loves him, then what makes you think he will be bothered with anything more than just a fling with you? You deserve more than to be used as some kind of sex toy. You have enough self respect to do the right thing and think about something other than just a romp in the sack or you wouldn't be here looking for advise in the first place. Chemistry happenes all the time, you dont HAVE to act on it.