I've decided...it's all in my head

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Registered: 04-06-2003
I've decided...it's all in my head
Thu, 03-25-2004 - 3:25pm
First, thanks to everyone for their input...

I have started to question whether or not everything that is going on is in my head or not. Now that I think about all the emails and phone calls.. he rarely complains about his wife, and we mostly talk about career stuff, and some personal stuff. The only thing he mentions about his wife is how she doesn't want kids (and he knew that when they married) and that he has to have a talk with her a couple of times a year about her spending habits. And that is us usually brought up by him after I am explaining about DH saying the same sort of thing as me.

While it doesn't change the fact that he has kept in touch with me all this time after we are no longer co-workers, we do still work in the same field. He, at a much higher level, probably gets to feed his ego, by helping me with career advice.. and I enjoy having him a phone call away as my "mentor".

And while I kind of still think he finds me somewhat attractive, he is never overt in his conversations.. The closest thing to that has been the recent discussion about him coming home next month asking to meet up. Again, could be purely platonic.

You are all correct, and this is certainly not something I will ever break up my marriage for. I will meet him - but I will tell my husband that we're meeting (afterall, my husband knows everytime I talk to him, and knows his mother has cancer.). I know he won't object to us meeting up.

Thanks again.