Bad Week for NC

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Bad Week for NC
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Fri, 03-26-2004 - 10:43am
Wow, it seems like alot of us are in NC this week. What's up with that? And for those of you who posted this week that your A was ending, all I have to say is "hang in there!!"

NEVER say never. You really don't know what the future will bring for you.

I know its hard right now, for those of us going thru NC and wondering what the heck is going on in our MM's life right now.

And for those who think their A is ended, you never know.

I thought mine was over a year ago too, when he told me he had to work on relationship with W.

But he came back. You never know, your's might too.

Take care everyone and lets all try and have a good weekend, and hope next week is alot better for us!!

Dusty
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Registered: 10-13-2003
Fri, 03-26-2004 - 10:50am

It does seem to be going around, doesn't it?

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Registered: 10-22-2003
Fri, 03-26-2004 - 11:09am
Actually, I've heard from MM this week, so I shouldn't complain too much. However, I'm worried. The last time we spoke he said he'd call yesterday to let me know how the latest round of M counseling went. He had a one on one session and was a bit anxious about it. He's usually pretty good about calling but I haven't heard anything in a couple days. It could be nothing. Maybe he's busy. Maybe he's sick. But for some reason I can't stopping myself from fearing the worst. And if I don't hear from him today, there won't be another opportunity until next Tuesday. Not sure I can wait that long! So I may try to call him in a bit...

ANYWAY, I'm just trying to say that I sympathize with everyone dealing with NC. It sucks big time. Hang in there!

GB2

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Registered: 03-10-2004
Fri, 03-26-2004 - 11:24am
Dusty - what a sweet post! Isn't it funny what we put ourselves through? I get the NC when OM is on vacation, with his family etc, but the NC "just because" is very confusing to me - why do we let them get away with that? And why do we take them back?

I have to admit, I haven't actually been there - any time MM and I have tried NC either work steps in and we have to be in contact or I simply can't stand it and the rules change yet again. I don't know what I'd do if we just stopped communicating.

I wonder why our hearts (and other body parts) lead us down this path? It's a lot of anguish and heartache for those few stolen moments. Yikes! I'm sounding quite icky today!

Back on track - thanks for your encouraging words. I know you're struggling too and it's nice of you to try to lift everyone else! hugs -

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Registered: 03-10-2004
Fri, 03-26-2004 - 12:49pm
Whatnow, you are so right!!! Why do we sit around waiting for them to contact us? Why do they get all that power. It makes me so mad sometimes and then if we make the first contact, they brush us off or tell us they are too busy, so here we always are, waiting for them and as mad as we get during the NC we get so happy to hear from them that we forget all about the frustration and anger they just put us through. I hate this about my A, that I'm always so available and he's not!!!! Argh....

Well thanks for letting me vent. Keep you chins up and keep busy to keep your mind of them, as hard as it is to do.

ibc