Gave in to AP#2 already ...

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Registered: 12-15-2003
Gave in to AP#2 already ...
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Wed, 01-28-2009 - 2:37pm

so on Monday i had no contact with #2 at all....

~k
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Registered: 01-27-2008
Wed, 01-28-2009 - 3:03pm

cant give you much of advice as i beleive you know what you have to do, doing it is not going to be easy. He comes across as being a total control freak, he loves the power he has over you and he is nothing short of being a bully. Id say you need to stand upto him, the more you allow him to control you the more he will take that control. Stand strong and dont respond to him, what other option do you have but to go complete nc with him. If you stick around for fear of your H finding out then this alone can reduce you to a nervous wreck, i speak on the basis that you dont want anything more to do with him. If you do beleive you still want to see him then you still need to stand up to him, this is as all relationships are a two way thing, anything short of that then your burdening on loosing self respect and giving him the power to control the situation and you. Stand up strong many of times they will back down. By running to his demands your are allowing this to happen, if its making you feel beneath yourself then stop it now. As for your h finding out hopefully it wont come to that, but at the end of the day its down to you to find the strength to end this if thats what you truly want. Their are plenty of people here who will help guide you and support you. Noone deserves to be treated this way and your worthy of much more no matter A or no A.


please take care


SS

"be yourself, disguise not, for your a truly unique beautiful being"


"be yourself, disguise not, for your a truly unique beautiful being"


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Registered: 12-12-2008
Wed, 01-28-2009 - 3:19pm
People will treat you the way you let them treat you. Its sounds to me he only thinks of you as a booty call. This guy is an a-hole. He is degrading you every opportunity he gets. Work on your marriage..not this JA. I hope that he has made you angry...angry enough to see what he is really doing and really thinks of you. Loose his number...change your number...whatever it takes.
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Registered: 12-06-2007
Wed, 01-28-2009 - 3:47pm

Iluv, I just don't even know what to say to you.

 

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Registered: 12-30-2008
Wed, 01-28-2009 - 4:17pm
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Edited 2/21/2009 4:57 am ET by goblinqueen79
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Registered: 12-15-2003
Wed, 01-28-2009 - 5:42pm

you girls are completely right, all of you.

~k
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Registered: 01-15-2009
Wed, 01-28-2009 - 7:44pm

Kimmie, please listen to the posters who replied to your post.

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Registered: 08-02-2000
Wed, 01-28-2009 - 11:34pm
I don't even know what to say to your post. It is so....just....bizarre. Look, I don't know you, and I don't know your story. But everything in me is screaming for you to get some help. There is NO WAY in hell I would have gone to see this creep. He sounds like a real nut job. He's not only using you, but he's not even trying to be sneaky about it. He's treating you like a piece of meat. Is this what you want? You kept talking about your husband in your post. Well for heaven's sake, stop this nonsense and work on your marriage, or you just may lose him. I would change my cellphone number as of, like, yesterday. Don't give him any avenue in which to contact you, and for the love of God, don't contact him. Get this complete, pathetic, total loser out of your life for good, or suffer the consequences. You are heading down a real slippery slope if you continue this self-destructive behavior. Get a grip on yourself and get some help before it's too late.