You know what to do. You're a smart girl, otherwise, what's all this schooling for?. It boggles the mind why we women now days have such low self esteem and opinions of ourselves.
I don't know how old you are and by the sound of your post, I think you're young. But still old enough to know what's right or wrong. I think you need to pick your self esteem out from the gutter and start to rebuild it up. You're heading for disaster and degradation if you don't get yourself out of this sick situation with this "bozo". Enough being a doormat and a puppet, he's actions shows how lowly he values you. Are you that desperate to be with a man?
Respect yourself and don't let others disrespect you like this MM is doing. I would even change school if I have to. Yes! It's that simple.
"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."
Since you are asking - tell him (not ask) to leave you alone and do not engage him. Tell him you do like him. He appears to be manipulating you and that is not good so be blunt.
WOW what a bunghole this one is! The first thing that came to my mind when I was reading your post was "WTF, is she crazy?" "Why is she tolerating such behavior?" I mean I still wonder why you are putting up w/ that crap. He's crazy, and you're crazy to deal w/ him.
But, I'm getting off track a little. When I was thinking about why you were putting up w/ his crap, it occurred to me that I have put up w/ more crap from my AP then EVERY man I have ever been w/ put together, and I never THOUGHT that I would be someone that would take any crap from any man. Don't get me wrong, my AP has never done the things that your AP has, but the fact remains that I still took more than I should have, and settled for less respect then I am entitled to which is what you are doing right now.
You have to try and look at this objectively which is hard because being in an A puts you in a fog. Just like people who use drugs. Their life never looks as bad to them, as it looks to the rest of us. I don't know if we become immune to the pain over time, or we justify our behavior, or if we just refuse to see the writing on the wall, but the end result is always the same. Unhealthy behavior.
This guy is TOXIC, and the sooner you get away from him the better, but it's going to require effort on your part. You are probably going to miss him, and want to go back, but you have to try and control yourself.
If you REALLY want to get away from him, I mean REALLY want to, then tell him that if he doesn't stop attempting to talk to you then you will tell his W that the two of you have been having sex (even though it's not true.) Make it sound like you mean it even if you don't. Other than sheer willpower, and threatening to tell his W, I can't really think of anything else that will help.
I hope that you will have the strength to stay away, because this guy is NO GOOD! Good luck, and we are here if you need us.
You should not hate yourself. You should hate this jacka$$ for treating you like you are nothing. Run from him, change your phone number, emails, school, whatever, change your whole life if this is what it takes - but you can't be this a$$clown's doormat.
You know what to do. You're a smart girl, otherwise, what's all this schooling for?. It boggles the mind why we women now days have such low self esteem and opinions of ourselves.
I don't know how old you are and by the sound of your post, I think you're young. But still old enough to know what's right or wrong. I think you need to pick your self esteem out from the gutter and start to rebuild it up. You're heading for disaster and degradation if you don't get yourself out of this sick situation with this "bozo". Enough being a doormat and a puppet, he's actions shows how lowly he values you. Are you that desperate to be with a man?
Respect yourself and don't let others disrespect you like this MM is doing. I would even change school if I have to. Yes! It's that simple.
"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."
- Ramona L. Anderson
WOW what a bunghole this one is! The first thing that came to my mind when I was reading your post was "WTF, is she crazy?" "Why is she tolerating such behavior?" I mean I still wonder why you are putting up w/ that crap. He's crazy, and you're crazy to deal w/ him.
But, I'm getting off track a little. When I was thinking about why you were putting up w/ his crap, it occurred to me that I have put up w/ more crap from my AP then EVERY man I have ever been w/ put together, and I never THOUGHT that I would be someone that would take any crap from any man. Don't get me wrong, my AP has never done the things that your AP has, but the fact remains that I still took more than I should have, and settled for less respect then I am entitled to which is what you are doing right now.
You have to try and look at this objectively which is hard because being in an A puts you in a fog. Just like people who use drugs. Their life never looks as bad to them, as it looks to the rest of us. I don't know if we become immune to the pain over time, or we justify our behavior, or if we just refuse to see the writing on the wall, but the end result is always the same. Unhealthy behavior.
This guy is TOXIC, and the sooner you get away from him the better, but it's going to require effort on your part. You are probably going to miss him, and want to go back, but you have to try and control yourself.
If you REALLY want to get away from him, I mean REALLY want to, then tell him that if he doesn't stop attempting to talk to you then you will tell his W that the two of you have been having sex (even though it's not true.) Make it sound like you mean it even if you don't. Other than sheer willpower, and threatening to tell his W, I can't really think of anything else that will help.
I hope that you will have the strength to stay away, because this guy is NO GOOD! Good luck, and we are here if you need us.
Justice
Veronica -
Honey - please listen to what everyone is telling you.
You should not hate yourself. You should hate this jacka$$ for treating you like you are nothing.
Run from him, change your phone number, emails, school, whatever, change your whole life if this is what it takes - but you can't be this a$$clown's doormat.
Love,
Vivacious