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| Wed, 02-11-2009 - 11:35am |
A little background, I only posted here once so no one really knows me. My AP and I have been together for 6 months now. Fell into it hot and heavy hit a few bumps last month. He said I was too pushy, blah, blah, blah. I am single and he's married (27yrs, and they are HS sweethearts.) He's 48 and I'm 31 so the age was a little issue too at first. So I told him last week that we need a break and I need to go out there, date and meet people who are available. Not to brag or anything but I'm a decent looking person and was able to land two dates for the weekend. I went out Friday and sat. (and yes he knew about it). Well Sunday morning he sends me text saying that he can't stand me dating anyone, he doesn't want to share, it hurts too much, and that either I will have to wait for him to leave his wife or just break it off with him. Well I agree that as long as he is willing to leave and be with me then I am willing to wait. Well Sunday evening everything came crashing down. His wife found the text he sent me

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Lost,
Hi.
Gosh, I would say the best advice for you is to take care of yourself, first and foremost.
If you listen to anything, listen to this:
I feel terrible for all three of you - no one in this situation wins.
You cannot possibly
Hi Fly,
He knows how feel I
Hi,
I am trying to prepare
You're a smart girl. Be very leery and stay away until the storm is over... then you can re-assess the situation.
I was in this A 10 years ago, my AP pursued me relentlessly, Fedexed me lingerie, sent me a plane ticket to go spend time with him while W was gone to see her family. I wasn't in love with him or anything, but after I got back W figured it all out by the 'look on his face' when he was talking to me on the phone one night (in front of her... stupid), he confessed to everything then threw me under the bus; he wouldn't answer my calls and he even gave her MY phone numbers and she started stalking me - calling my home, work, cell every day it was a nightmare. I kept telling her I didn't want him - like I said, wasn't in love with him at all - she even phoned my H at the time, luckily he thought she was crazy and didn't believe her (phew). Anyway all this to say that overnight it turned into a freakish nightmare that took me at least a year to get over (I developed Post-traumatic stress... it was that bad) and I didn't even really like the guy.
Good luck.... and hugs,
trixie
Dear Lost,
Be careful about what he wants you to hear,
Time will tell if he really means it. Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and know enough to not fully trust all that is being told to you. I'm thinking his wife is still in shock from it all and is not quiet sure what she wants right now. Learning your H is in love with someone else is a lot to swallow in one night.
Give it some time and let him contact you to let you know what is happening. Good luck
Hi Pink,
Thanks for the kind words you sound like such a nice person. I'm sorry about your situation but these things are are never easy. I went into this thinking oh... its nothing but just about being physical and now look I'm in a biggest mess of my lifetime.
Lost
Hi guys,
Just an update, it took the W
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