open marriage?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-04-2009
open marriage?
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Tue, 02-17-2009 - 10:42am
Does anyone here have an open marriage? Not swinging, just open, where the married partners are staying together for whatever reason, but they allow each other to see other people? Just wondering if anyone does, and if so, what are the ground rules for that? How do you keep the relationship with the other person from getting out of hand, ie, too much time spent away from the household and with the other person? Is your marriage stronger because of it?
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2009
In reply to: tgif2009
Tue, 02-17-2009 - 1:01pm
I don't but sometimes wish I did. Would make me feel less guilty about what I'm doing! And I'm pretty sure I'd be OK with him doing it. I just know for a fact he would NEVER go for it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-20-2007
In reply to: tgif2009
Wed, 02-18-2009 - 11:10am

Well here is/was my situation.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-04-2009
In reply to: tgif2009
Wed, 02-18-2009 - 2:19pm

Hmm, interesting, it sounds like you made it work.

Any jealousy by you/SO or AP's?

Are you still living with SO?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-20-2007
In reply to: tgif2009
Thu, 02-19-2009 - 12:18am

No jealousy-probably a mix of not wanting eachother that bad and having heard all the details helped.

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Registered: 12-18-2008
In reply to: tgif2009
Thu, 02-19-2009 - 4:51am
I wanted an open relationship.
I brought it up with my bf but he isn't going for it. I just have zero confidence that I won't stray again and I told him as much but it's still a no.
I told him if he did anything that I didn't want to know any details so I was pretty clear that it was to go both ways but nope.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-18-2008
In reply to: tgif2009
Thu, 02-19-2009 - 7:07am

Of course considering how I am, I have thought about this many times, but, and yes I know I sound like a selfish b*tch. I want the 'open' for ME, but not for HIM. It's how I've always been. I want SO or H or BF or whatever to never stray, while I do what I want. Too jealous and possessive I guess

jana

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-04-2009
In reply to: tgif2009
Thu, 02-19-2009 - 3:51pm

Yeah, my H wants it open for him but not for me, lol

I'm kind of a jealous person too, but now that my M is more of a friendship deal, I think I can handle it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-04-2009
In reply to: tgif2009
Thu, 02-19-2009 - 3:53pm

And the boyfriend is OK with your sitch? I know, I'm being nosy, lol...

It sounds like it works for you, gotta give you credit for keeping it together for the kids....

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Registered: 07-20-2007
In reply to: tgif2009
Fri, 02-20-2009 - 2:56am