He's gone missing

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Registered: 02-01-2009
He's gone missing
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Sat, 02-21-2009 - 8:08pm

Firstly, a bit of background on my story - will make it short!


I was over on the EAS board, as we had a Dday where his wife discovered an email. He suggested we stop the A, as everyone, including myself, was getting hurt, and he didn't want to do that to me

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Registered: 03-14-2008
Sat, 02-21-2009 - 9:56pm

I have to reply to this. I am on the EAS board but read some posts here from time to time to remind myself that I'm in a better place now. Here is the thing..that doesn't surprise me. My XAP went missing on me for almost 6 weeks. We were supposed to meet and he never got back to me. No word. No contact. Nothing. Then he emails me and tries to pretend that it was ME who wasn't keeping in contact. They only care about themselves. You're better off without him..they go missing. It's what they do. Mainly because we are not their W's and they don't feel like they have to play by the rules of a real relationship. What we have/had with them is not a real relationship.

Just move on if you can. I know it hurts to go through this..But trust me you don't want someone who shows such little regard for your feelings in your life.

Don't let this cause you anymore pain..some may have other advice for you. This is just my opinion.

Take Care

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Registered: 12-24-2008
Sat, 02-21-2009 - 11:42pm
Sorry for your heartache, bewitched..been there, done that. My XAP pulled that on me quite often. We work together, so we see each other everyday, but after work and on the weekends we would text each other when it was CONVENIENT FOR HIM..meaning, when he wouldn't get caught by his wife. It was easier for me because my husband knew that I text message several different people...what would tick me off is how I would hardly hear from him sometimes and he would say it was because "IT" ( that was what he called his wife) was always right next to him, just couldn't get away and I was like "well, does she follow you in the bathroom when you take a sh*t too?" I wasn't buying that he couldn't find 5 min to send a damn text just saying HI, THINKING OF YOU, LOVE YOU....then he pulled this crap last week that his aunt died and he had to go out of town for 4 days, with his wife, of course, even though they were separated, and I sent him 3 texts, figuring since they were separated and he was supposed to be honest and tell her he left her to be with me, there was no big deal if I texted him...I didn't hear a damn thing out of him for 4 days, then last Monday, he tried to tell me that he texted me ALL weekend and never heard from me and figured I was mad at him...whatever, I texted everyone else and received their texts just fine...then he screws up last Wednesday when I started crying and told him that I didn't want another weekend like the last one..not hearing anything out of him and he says "Oh, baby, I'm sorry, I will never do that....." and then he stopped....I didn't say anything, but I knew why he stopped, because he knew he was going to be caught in a lie....he never texted me back because he didn't want his wife to know about it....sorry I rambled, but just wanted to let you know that they will do anything to save their asses and that means not caring about what you are thinking or how you feel.