Help To Get A To Define What I Am To Him

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Registered: 01-24-2009
Help To Get A To Define What I Am To Him
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Tue, 02-24-2009 - 11:30pm

I don't want to push this issue and just come right out and ask but I would like some advice on how I can get AP to give me a clue as to how he "really" feels about me.

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Registered: 12-19-2008
Wed, 02-25-2009 - 8:10am

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Registered: 06-04-2007
Wed, 02-25-2009 - 8:11am
It's hard to give advice when you don't know either person.
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Registered: 01-17-2009
Wed, 02-25-2009 - 1:17pm

How long have you been together and how involved are you?

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Registered: 08-19-2008
Wed, 02-25-2009 - 3:01pm
Are any of you folks M? If so, then there's nothing to define. You're in an A or probably just a FWB. If you're S and him M then you're a booty-call. But, if you're both single and available, then why not sit down and have a heart to heart conversation about where this is going? I don't understand how people can go ahead and trade bodily fluids but still be timid about stuff that are important for them to know (i.e., "do you love me?", "are you STD free?", "where is this going?", etc., etc.)
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Wed, 02-25-2009 - 3:29pm
DUH . . . . this is an affair support board!
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Registered: 08-19-2008
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 12:33am
Nope, got no problem with that.....and I'm just telling it like it is.
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Registered: 02-22-2008
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 9:12am

<<.....and I'm just telling it like it is>>


Noooo, you're most definately not. You're telling what YOU define it as, and maybe what's it's like for YOU.

Edwina
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Registered: 12-12-2008
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 11:21am

My suggestion is don't press the issue...You may not like what you hear..If you are feeling more then he is and he says "We are just friends"..You get hurt..


I know this by experience...I used to pressure AP to 'define' our relationship and what I was to him and he always said you are 'my friend'.

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Registered: 08-19-2008
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 12:49pm
I'm NOT talking about "everybody" or you. I'm talking about the "poster"! People just need to be real in situations like an A. If the guy hasn't defined it for her even after they hit the sack, then usually not all but "usually" it's not because he's crazily "gaa-gaa" about it. The sooner people realized and see what's staring them in the face, the less pain it will be for then in the long run. Sort of like going in with "eyes wide open". Understand it's an A and put away your unrealistic expectations.... JMHO!
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