It may be over
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It may be over
| Fri, 02-27-2009 - 5:36am |
After a year and a half of the EA , AP & I had a big talk today. He is not the kind of person who would let his emotions show and I think I may have pushed him over the edge a little on what I mean to him. I think its partly my fault

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"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
It is not necessarily over.
if it were me i wouldnt contact him, i'd let him contact me, your husband will be there soon focus on that...even if you aren't that into husband..you can still have a good time with him going to dinner, watching a movie, tv, taking walks at the park...going to a concert....i let "whomever he is now" contact me..but that's because my bday came up...i know he's not the type that will let a holiday go without offerring a sentiment to me.....but we hadn't been in contact in a month at that point...it was okay because he had spoken to DS everyday in between me and him not talking (no he's not ds father) ...and DS would let me know sometime he would ask if things were okay at home...guess his way of trying to open a convo about what's going on ...dont know..
just if it were me i would not contact him unless of course his bday is coming up or another special event....but if not..he'll call or text or email .....
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
oh and maybe I can get some tips from you ladies on how to be chilled out and not come out and look like I need the emotional support. I just want it to be light and fun.. I know he likes me a lot and I just need to make sure I dont come on too strong . Some of you out there seem to have mastered that art.
Again, based on my experience, do not contact him first.
I agree that your AP wants a break and not a break-up.Listen girl, yours is an EA and he is in it because he is emotionally invested ,no sexual motive though you guys might be feeling a hell lot of sexual tension?? I guess he must have got hurt for you doubting his feelings.NC does good to sought your feelings out but it can be the basis of it fading away gradually.
As for keeping emotions out of an emotional affair ?? is that possible?
You cant say that your AP is not in love with you if he doesnt show emotions easily.Its difficult for you but go with the flow and love him when you can.Life is short.I am in my late 50s and when i look back i see no one.kwim? I have had many sexual R but no real love like you girls have.Now i am too old to fall in love but if i do, i will hold on to it for the rest of my life and will do anything to keep it.
Sorry for hijack!
tyger, are you back with your AP?
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
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