HOW do you move on?
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HOW do you move on?
| Sat, 10-31-2009 - 4:03pm |
My AP still hasn't called to talk about what I wanted to talk about weeks ago. I've seen him since and he hasn't mentioned it. I saw him and the wife the other day at a get together. I talked to her and totally ignored him. Out of the corner of my eye, I saw him glancing at me. I really want to talk to him. How do I get past that? I know I'm not going to be his last affair...he's probably looking for someone new right now. Any advice on how to just let go and move on?

Hi Jilly,
I wish I had good advice for you. I would say to try NC. I know thats hard because I tried before. He sounds like he isnt willing to listen to what you need to say to him and that sucks on his part. I think that even though we are in A's there should be respect and a willingness to understand what each partner needs. I know it's not always the case but it should be. He doesnt deserve you.
I would try NC and see how that goes. Maybe try keeping busy to take your mind off him. That's hard too but it helps sometimes. I wish you all the best and I hope things go in your favor. Keep updating
Hugs
Sweetie, he's shown you so many times already he has no interest in having any kind of relationship with you, he is interested in sex only. At least he's been honest - it's actually easier this way because you don't have to second guess yourself and his motives.
You're moving on by grieving and letting him go. Nothing can heal broken heart but time - but you have to allow this time by staying NC or LC if there is no other choice.
Good luck, your xAP doesn't really seem worthy of much suffering.
Love and hugs,
GbG
Hey Jil,
Hope you are feeling better? Any update?
I just wanted to to say that i agree with caribu in that just because we are in A's, it doesn't mean we should expect to be treated disrespectfully. I know a lot of people will disagree with me. BUT there IS a more respectful and decent way to end an A. A's aren't all that different from RL relationships in that the way a decent person would handle the ending of it is much different than the way an a*shole would end it. A or not.
Sunshine
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one day at a time.
PLEASE, PLEASE do not call him.