New here - Taking steps

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-03-2009
New here - Taking steps
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Tue, 11-03-2009 - 7:51pm


iVillage Member
Registered: 12-18-2008
Tue, 11-03-2009 - 8:09pm

Hi there - I can really relate to everything you're saying.

And yes there's some 'nay sayers' on here who make it their business to talk down A's. Even on this board which is supposed to be for A support. Well I won't talk it down, I say go for it. Why should we be miserable. Why should we put up with intolerable situations. I know that breathless feeling you talked about, I live for it. Good Luck.

-jana

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2009
Fri, 11-06-2009 - 6:48am

I would never say anything is right or wrong. What I will say is if you read this board, there are many people hurting badly, including myself. So close your eyes and imagine a few scenarios first.

You falling in love with this guy and him not being what he said and treating you badly.

Your H finding out.

What I've learned is its fun and easy to fantasize about the A but nobody fantasizes about the negatives cause we all think it won't happen to us and for whatever its worth, there will be a happy ending. If the happy ending is a new life with this guy, then ok I guess.

I'm at the point now like a person who took horrible care of herself and who survived a heart attack. I'm realizing I have a second chance. (I hope) and trying to make the right choices.