Still Here, Still Confused

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-09-2009
Still Here, Still Confused
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Thu, 11-05-2009 - 1:22am

Without going into a long story, I lurk here a lot and have posted just a few times.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-2009
Thu, 11-05-2009 - 8:38pm
Yes.....he's a cake eater
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-09-2008
Fri, 11-06-2009 - 12:43am
Sounds like he's a cake eater.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-07-2009
Sat, 11-07-2009 - 7:18am
OMG, I think we are dating the same guy! LOL. OK, maybe not, but I have the exact situation. Have you been together long? A little over year for us. I guess I have no advice, I'm actually looking for some myself. I don't know what to think. I feel naive believing him.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-09-2009
Sat, 11-14-2009 - 1:45am

Hey there, sorry it took a little while to respond. It's so nice to know I'm not alone in this and thank you for responding to my message. We have been "together" since Feb of this year so about 10 months I guess.

I get so confused and think about ending it all the time but feel like it's something I can't actually do. When we're together, it's great. When we're apart, I hate it and second guess EVERYTHING.

How do you cope?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-07-2009
Sun, 11-15-2009 - 8:01am
I've been coping by not all hanging out together so much. It's awkward sometimes. We all used to do dinner like once a week, now maybe it's once a month, if that. I have been quite busy since school started though. I even try to not see her one on one as much. All she does is complain about him and say horrible things and it's SOOOOO hard to listen to AND have to act like I understand or something. Idk. I try to slip things in there sometimes and try to kind of defend him or help her gain another perspective. She's so negative though, if I offer something she squashes it.
Are you friends with his W?
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2007
Sun, 11-15-2009 - 11:48am

This is the worst situation to be in.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-30-2005
Sun, 11-15-2009 - 12:30pm

After having been there done that. Take the sex and enjoy that. He will not get a divorce.