In a dark place.. please help

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-02-2009
In a dark place.. please help
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Mon, 11-09-2009 - 8:52am

I am in such a dark place right now in my life and I am starting to think really bad thoughts.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-19-2009
Mon, 11-09-2009 - 9:58am

Hey Jap,


It's normal to be a little envious and bitter towards AP at this point when you are having financial difficulties, as long as you don't act on those feelings.


I am confident that you will get back on your feet. But, your H is not doing the right thing by bringing you there as a financially bad move and now not helping out when you are struggling. financial difficulties are very stressing in a marriage.


You will get through this somehow, you sound like a survivor.

Sunshine


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Sunshine

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2004
Mon, 11-09-2009 - 10:53am

I can SOOO sympathize with money issues...it sucks to feel like the wolf's at the door all the time.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-02-2009
Mon, 11-09-2009 - 11:26am

Thank you all 4 your replies.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-2006
Mon, 11-09-2009 - 1:33pm

Sorry to hear about your situation.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-07-2009
Mon, 11-09-2009 - 10:36pm

Happy Birthday....I hope you find a way to make your special day nice

because you do deserve it.

Frankly, if your husband doesn't get off his butt soon and start

contributing the resentment you feel towards your AP will be

directed two-fold towards the one who deserves it--your Husband!

If I were you I would think long and hard about going it alone

at this point--your Husband is just dragging you down.

As far as your AP--if he can't take the time to gift you a card

he is not worth your time smart lady....you deserve better.

Good Luck to you--stay strong.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-09-2009
Mon, 11-09-2009 - 10:50pm

Im feel for you being in financial hardship. I too lost my home, cars and most of my furniture when i got my D so i know what its like to have wealth and then have to go to a strict budget. Its very hard but I found that doing everything that is suggested here helps. Proactive behavior such as calling utilities rather than waiting on them shutting you off and making payment arrangements and sticking to them gets you by.

If i may ask though, you stated >>> H knows about our financial situation, in fact he was the one that caused it.<<<

If your H caused the bad situation you both are in, why is your H not contributing more than he is to fix things? Why are you busting your butt to get ahead and allowing him to wallow in the misery?

In the case of AP having money, dont hold that against him. There will always be people in the economy that survive better than the rest. He must have worked hard to get what he has and kept it all. I do believe in karma, but i dont think you are being punished here. Almost everyone is having a rough time and you just need to do what you can till things get better.

I wish you the best of luck.

SB

Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-11-2009
Tue, 11-10-2009 - 8:40pm
Yes, the darkest place, filled with jealousy. What exactly did you think your M man was going to do for you?
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-02-2009
Wed, 11-11-2009 - 8:30am

I really dont expect him to do anything for me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-18-2009
Wed, 11-11-2009 - 6:22pm

Hi Jap--I hear you and can feel some of what you feel about $$ isssues. My MM also has the big home, great business etc.