Still going...3 months in...
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| Sat, 11-14-2009 - 4:53pm |
I'm having an affair with my neighbor. We have been seeing each other once a week, and it's still fun. He is very relaxed, unlike DH, and the sex is great. It's hunting season, so we are having to do a little more coordination to see each other, but while he's away, we text. We text every day most days, and he usually texts me that he's off work and we talk for a few minutes while he's on his way home. Occasionally we'll pass in the neighborhood, but it's rare. DH & I both really like his wife, and his son and mine are best friends, so the cost is high, which I don't like to think about. It's about as stupid as I've ever been, but I'm just compartmentalizing it to get by.
DH is going to be working out of town during the week for the next 3 years, so I'll be home alone every night. I'm not sure how that's going to go (we'd never see each other at our homes--we did it once at his and once at mine, and we decided that was a bad idea). But the whole thing is about the sex, and we're both having fun. We don't have deep conversations, we don't talk about our marriages, and we have fun. So far, I love the drama-free nature of this, because I am married to a very emotionally volatile drama queen type (not angry, but anxious type--everything is a catastrophe about to happen). I love being around AP because he's funny and laid back.
Anyone been in an affair that was just for sex and so low maintenance? Neither of us is leaving, and we discussed that at the beginning. We both just want to have fun. So far, we are. I do think about him a lot, but it's the sex I'm missing when I don't see him. There was a time at the beginning where I felt like it was sucking the life out of me worrying, wondering, but I've gotten to know his wife and she really doesn't care where he is or what he's doing with his time--they don't seem to do much together, and she seems happy that way. I was worried he'd get caught, but he's really careful with his phone and his wife goes to bed really early and when we see each oher its on nights when he hasn't been home from work yet. I used to worry he would just get bored and stop texting, but Im sure he's as hooked as I am (we've talked about it a number of times).
I am so lulled into a false sense of security, I know...but it's so fun...and when I'm alone and really think about it, there are no words to describe what a jerk I am to do this to my DH and kids. A class A bitch. But I hate thinking about that part.
I guess this was just a vent. Nobody in the world knows about this, and sometimes I just want to get it out. Thanks, everyone...and if you have anything to add or interject, I'm wide open.
| Sat, 11-14-2009 - 7:28pm |
