Back over here? An update

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Registered: 10-08-2009
Back over here? An update
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Mon, 11-16-2009 - 6:35pm
I guess I should be back over here because I still have contact w/ AP. (I guess on EAS it's NC.....) Text him last week....never responded. Talked to him last week (I called) he brought up the text and said not to do that again because W could have found it. He started talking about the A and I cut him off saying I didn't want to talk about it (Same thing he told me) I told him I just want the sex. Period. (That's all this ever was) I still don't feel good about myself or the whole damn situation. Honestly, I wish I had never gotten involved in this whole mess in the first place. Just need some positive words tonight....not feeling too great emotionally...
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Registered: 10-21-2009
Mon, 11-16-2009 - 10:48pm

Jilly, he openly asked you not to contact him. Why did you call him, so he could humiliate you all over again? That same guy who ordered you to give him a BJ and hurry up because he has to be somewhere else? Please get over on EAS and start to read on how to end this madness - you do have strength to end it. He obviously have no respect for you whatsoever - but you have to master up whatever left of your dignity and self-respect and cut him off for good.

You can do it. Here are my positive words for you tonight;)

Love,
GbG

**Bloodied but unbowed**
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Registered: 04-23-2007
Tue, 11-17-2009 - 8:45am
I agree with gonebaby. Please stop putting yourself out there begging for S. It can't be that bad with your hubby to be this desperate. If you have to beg someone because you need it that bad why not tell your H how he is going to push you into someone else's bed if he doesn't meet your S needs. No man is worth that. You don't have to be humiliated any longer. You are choosing to continue to humiliate yourself. You can stop yourself. Only you have the power to do so. He has made it clear that he is trying to work on his M and has asked you not to contact him. Your behavior is becoming stalkerish and you appear too desperate. He is not the only man alive. Stop yourself!!!
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Registered: 10-08-2009
Tue, 11-17-2009 - 12:20pm
Thanks ladies for your advice, but I need to clarify two things: 1. He never asked me to stop contacting him, he told me not to text anymore because W might read them. 2. He is NOT working on his marriage. They are getting divorced. (Nothing's been filed yet) I KNOW I need to stop the insanity, but it's hard. There's so much more to this that I can't write here because you never know who's on here reading these posts. He kept saying he WANTED to end this A, then he would ask me for it. What the heck? If he doesn't WANT an A (at all), then don't go on an affair dating site, right??!!