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| Tue, 11-17-2009 - 4:12pm |
Hi Everyone,
I met a SG last Spring whom I was very attracted to and who came on pretty strong. We hung out a few times, talked online quite a bit. This was while i was away. When he came over to see me the last time he left and then I didnt hear from him again till a month later even though he said he'd see me the next day. No explanation, nothing, till out of the blue he IMs me like nothing ever happened. I asked him what the problem was and he told me he saw a pic of me and H together and it made him feel weird. I said I understood but why didnt he just tell me? We talked a few more times but the last time he jumped offline and again, no explanation, so I changed my email so I wouldn't encounter him again.
In October I was away at the same place. Went to place he works with a friend, knowing I'd see him and thinking it would be awkward at first but then ok. Didn't want any weird feelings in case we ever ran into each other.
We talked and he seemed fine. Made a few little comments but nothing crazy like the first time. Told him if he wanted to hang out to call and he said he would.
Next day I email that I wanted him to know I asked as friends not wanting or looking for sex (we had discussed this previously as he asked what I wanted with "us").
He writes back did it mean we couldn't swim naked together? I just sent back a haha message.
Didn't hear anything and friend and I went back to restaurant thinking no big deal. He was totally different this time, asking if I was still 'alone" and coming on very strong. He never called but did IM a few times and finally came over one night after a discussion about what we wanted (sex). I told him I was looking for FWB. That is all. He said it sounded good yet he didn't want to "cuddle" because it would cause complications. He said he wanted to see me again yet I didn't hear from him till I had company and he was saying things to me sexually and then once I got home again he says a few things. He doesn't email back whenever I send him an email, he seems to pull away and then comes back. I don't know what he is thinking or how he feels. I want to ask him without him thinking I am looking for more or making drama. Why cant he just say what the problem is? I just think it's weird that I try to treat him exactly like anyone else yet he goes away then reappears. I know he is not seeing anyone (he'd tell me), he's not a player and is a bit shy and he is pretty good about telling me his opinion on other things. Not sure what is going on but Id like to know without making him feel like I want something other than FWB.
I will be there again in a few months and would like to see him if possible but with the way he is acting have no idea what to expect and don't want it always to be when he feels like it. My feelings and needs should be important too. Anyone ever encountered this at first in their A or have any advice? One part says leave it be and see if he contacts you and when and another part says ask what it is he wants, if anything.
