I'm back after a few years!

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Registered: 11-14-2009
I'm back after a few years!
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Sun, 11-22-2009 - 4:47pm

Hi MAS,


Well it's be a long while since I have seen this screen here before me and had the pleasure of typing away. It actually feels amazing. It's almost like the best therapy ever. LOL!!! A few year back when I was on here daily I was using another screen name. blueyes03 (i think).

cntrygirl03
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Registered: 10-10-2009
Sun, 11-22-2009 - 9:06pm

Congratulations on doing what made you happy...especially since soo many people can't file for D and move on.


As for your AP...you know him better soo what do you think the problem is? If his W has a BF..I don't know what the problem would be. Does his W know about you? I will say tho that you want to spend time with his 2 DD's but sometimes people don't always want to rush having their kids meet their SO. I know thats how I am. Blending families together is not easy at all. It starts out good but after time starts getting a lil bumpy. Have you sat him down and talked to him about how you feel? I have learned that communication is definitely the key for a relationship to work especially an A type relationship.

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Registered: 11-14-2009
Mon, 11-23-2009 - 5:13pm

Hi Dark,


Thanks for responding. Yes BF's wife does know about me. She doesn't seem to care at all. Which again is why I don't understand what the issue is. Yes we have sat down and talked this through numerous times. I don't know why I am so hurt. Maybe it's jealousy, insecurities on my part since my ExH is happily moved on and it's out in the open for everyone to see. I'm just tired of waiting.
BF/AP says that he doesn't want to upset/piss off his wife to where she takes away the extra days she has allowed him to see his girls. I completely 100% understand this. But when is there a perfect time. He hasn't done anything to get his house ready to put on the market. She isn't living there and neither is he cause he is living with me. Expect when he has his girls.
I'm just so hurt and confused and it seems as though we can't understand each other on this part, which is making it so much harder. All he looks at it as is me complaining and b****hing. He thinks I shouldn't worry about his divorce and just cherish the time he spends with me. Sorry I do worry about it and I will. I do cherish the time. But I'm ready to have him all to me.

cntrygirl03
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Registered: 10-10-2009
Mon, 11-23-2009 - 7:27pm
Completely makes sense. I would want to know too especially what his and the W's relationship is. She obviously has moved on. Its not like you are demanding a ring on your finger lol...you just want to know what the heck is going on. Today was a bad day and I don't get men at all! They are very confusing...
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Registered: 01-12-2009
Wed, 11-25-2009 - 3:54pm

We ended up waiting 15 months (if I can remember the dates exactly) before we first started interacting with each other's children.

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Registered: 11-14-2009
Sat, 11-28-2009 - 8:59pm

btrue~


Yes I do remember your story. It's kinda nice to be

cntrygirl03
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Registered: 01-12-2009
Mon, 11-30-2009 - 4:03pm

I so agree with you in regards to him filing.