please help me get through today

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2006
please help me get through today
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Thu, 11-26-2009 - 1:04pm
Remember me girls please help his DW found out about us on Tuesday evening and I have been an emotional wreck ever since. I asked him how he felt about this and he said he hates her and just wants to be able to see his kids.She has not confronted me yet but i know its coming I'm sure she is not aware of how long this has been going on.Friday (tommorrow is five years) what am i going to do I can't eat sleep or function like a normal person. He hasn't called me b/c he is home with her today and her sister came down which is odd b/c at the beginning of the week there was no mention of her sister coming down at all.OMG my womans intuition tells me he told her about us but I hope not I really don't want to go through a nasty scene with her or a court room.Five years of cells phone records and she seen explicit text from his phone to my phone and vise versa.HELP!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-04-2009
Thu, 11-26-2009 - 1:33pm

Hey...

I can tell from your post that you feel very upset and scared.
Does she know where you live? Are you married too? Single?
I hope you'll find out soon what exactly is going on. Can't you
text him or anything? Hm I guess not, because she apparently saw a text from you?

I wish I could help you. Can't you go somewhere and try to get your mind off it? What is it that you fear so much about her? Are you afraid she'll come after you?
Why would you have to see her in a court room?

It's okay, I don't think she can do anything to you. This is between her and her husband.

Hugs
htgo

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2009
Thu, 11-26-2009 - 1:45pm

Hi,
I'm sorry you're faced with this. =(
It is an emotional wreck, and I've btdt 3 times this year. Have faith, and as hard as it sounds, be patient and wait for him to contact you. For all you know, he might have conquered up a lie to cover up, and didn't throw you under the bus. Do not answer her phone calls, or text messages. Be very careful when answering your phone, walking out of your house, etc... just be on the cautious side of things.

Please keep us posted, we're here for you!

NC since Dec. 9th 2009

No Contact = No N

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2006
Thu, 11-26-2009 - 7:27pm
As far as I know she doesn't know where i live however it wouldn't take much asking for her to find out. I'm single with 2 DS's and don't date or see anyone but AP . I put my phone on private and he never answered but his phone was on so I'm sure he thought it was me then about 1hr ago I got a strange text from his phone it was a fwd that said happy thanksgiving ...so I texted back happy thanksgiving to him to .She's vendictive from what everyone has said about her she can sue me for alienation of affection b/c they have been married so long.I feel a little better after his text but still going insane not knowing what is going on.How do you go on with your life after 5 yrs .
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-24-2009
Thu, 11-26-2009 - 7:37pm

wow, im sorry for what you are going through. my OM's wife found about us too, about me. And its been over a year now and I still wait, with some anxiety ,about her doing something to me, not physically, but damaging to me and my family. My OM did reassure me that he would keep me safe and did everything in his power to protect me. So far so good. But you never know what the wife will do.


I think youre letting your mind work overtime, just try to wait and be patient and wait to hear from him. Give him time to figure things out. Just becasue she knows about you doesnt mean she will do anything to you. Her anger will be directed

~Layla~
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2006
Thu, 11-26-2009 - 9:13pm
I'm not married very much divorced was having my cake and eating it too up to two days ago.He texted me and said happy thanksgiving awhile ago b/c he knows how much i am a worrier.I'm half way through a bottle of wine and if i don't hear from him soon i'm going bezerk
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-24-2009
Thu, 11-26-2009 - 10:00pm
he knows youre worried and texted you. thats good. enjoy your wine and just be patient. you'll hear from him when he can contact you. i cant tell you to not worry because I was
~Layla~
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2009
Thu, 11-26-2009 - 11:50pm

Whatever you do, do NOT, I repeat, do NOT under any circumstances text him back.

NC since Dec. 9th 2009

No Contact = No N

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-04-2009
Fri, 11-27-2009 - 4:38am

Yes, I agree with Ilostagain, she might try to set up some kind of trap for you by pretending to be her H texting you.
Please don't worry too much, okay? I know you are going to miss him ,but for now we just have to make sure that she will not drag you into court.
But she probably won't.
I hope you'll know some more soon

Hugs