My friend's soap opera
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My friend's soap opera
| Tue, 12-01-2009 - 8:42am |
My friend wants me advice but I have no idea what to tell her. I thought I'd post here to get a few opinions.
My friend is involved with a married man who she's known for 17 years, but only been seeing that way for about 4 months. She is also friends with his wife who I'll call Jane.

Wow...I guess your friend needs to figure out what she will earn by saying anything to her AP and to be prepared for the worse. She has only been involved in the A for 4 months which I kinda think is a honeymoon stage (for some people). I think in any situation you have to out weigh the pros/cons. How many people know that Jane is having an A? If she (your friend)
Wow! What a messed up house! If both the H & W of the same M are having As (too many abbreviations lol) then it seems to me that neither are great at communicating or are concerned about the M itself.
Maybe what they both need is a wake up to the fact that they are both cheating on each other then they can make the rational decision to either move forward or D. I think they should both be alerted to the As even if that means your friend gets left. At least that way they are both starting from square one where neither H or W are better or worse in this drama.
I know a friend that had an A and she found out her APs W was doing same and she met up with H in the same area as his W. The H saw the W with HER AP and went home and moved out. (Yes double standards- he was more upset that she cheated than him) It may go to your friends advantage in that respect.
I think either way, you will need to be a good friend until this is all played out.
Good Luck.
SB
My GF knew not the H so he was not aware of her A until seeing his W & AP together.
I agree with Dark here, Mom. If your GFs AP is a jerk, then maybe it would be better that she knows it now rather than be crushed when too much further down the track. Just be a good friend and wait to pick up the pieces.
SB