Maintaining the upper hand in A?

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Registered: 02-23-2009
Maintaining the upper hand in A?
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Tue, 12-01-2009 - 9:02am

My AP said to me the other day that he will not initiate the "visits" between the two of us because he doesn't want me to feel like he's treating me like a wh*re which I guess sounds fair. A lot of our encounters are brief - 2 hours or less and he has to go. This is fine with me b/c we are both married and I'm not looking for a relationship.


So, I don't want to seem desperate or overly interested. I know this is kind of game playing, but I want to feel in control of things in the relationship.

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Registered: 11-16-2009
Tue, 12-01-2009 - 1:16pm
I'm in agreement with you regarding not contacting first. I also want to feel desired (heck that's a big reason why I'm in this A to begin with). However, I'm not interested so much in trying to keep the upperhand; but instead I love that he has to pursue me. They say men like the hunt, well I like to be pursued. Yet sometimes it is really hard to do, when I'm lonely and need to know that he's out there thinking of me.