Am I stupid in love?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2009
Am I stupid in love?
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Thu, 12-03-2009 - 4:29am

I have been browsing through this board for a few days so

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2009
Thu, 12-03-2009 - 4:39am

Hi,


I'm in a sort of similiar situation and maybe can be of some help to you.


My AP (affair partner), who is married, got his wife pregnant in the middle of our affair.

NC since Dec. 9th 2009

No Contact = No N

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2009
Thu, 12-03-2009 - 4:52am
To answer your question yes i knew he was sleeping with her. We both knew each other were still sleeping with our signifigant others. I do it to keep the hubby unsuspecting of anything. Although it doesn't happen very often and i hate it. Its almost like i feel he cheated on me, which he obviously didn't. I am like you i am raging mad but im in love with him and can't imagine my life without him. Half of me wants to leave and move on but the other part of me can't leave him. I hate that we are both going through this. It helps to know that im not alone.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-02-2009
Thu, 12-03-2009 - 9:00am

I am around your age, a newlywed too, and in an A.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-09-2009
Thu, 12-03-2009 - 9:55am

I think youre being a bit quick on the judgement. You both were in the A so he had to play nice at home and pretend things were hunky dory. If he is a high sex guy, not wanting to sleep with his GF may have alerted her to something being amiss. It was 10 weeks ago and im sure your R has developed a lot in that time.

If he has left her now then i dont see what the real problem is. You have a H and was probably sleeping with him too. What if YOU got pregnant by mistake- would you want AP to dump you? Try to remember all the things you did to keep from alerting your H to the A and cut AP some slack. To leave his GF while preg is a huge deal to most guys so you getting annoyed or abandoning him now would make your A a real lower act IMO. He would have left her for nothing should you dump him. Give him a chance as he looks to have given her up for you.
I dont like to say that you won, but he is showing commitment here.

Good luck.

Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.