So confused! What's new?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2009
So confused! What's new?
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Thu, 12-03-2009 - 10:33pm

Hi.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-26-2009
Fri, 12-04-2009 - 3:47am

If you don't want to hurt your husband, then if I were you I would seperate from him before he finds out what you are up to!


What a horrible thing for him to find out - it would be better to say to him that you just don't have the same feelings for him anymore.


I'm not trying to be all holey

Every recovery is a kind of rebirth
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2008
Fri, 12-04-2009 - 11:33am

I can't address why you're in this affair or taking the risks you are but I might have an idea of why your AP is. Perhaps he sees you as 'safe' - you don't want or hold out the hope of something truly committed and permanent and that suits him right now.


I asked a separated friend why he persued married women instead of a single lady and he said that he hated the pressure he felt from the single women to get involved in something committed; no matter how much they said they weren't looking for marriage they always got around to making it clear that's what they wanted and he would run a mile at that point.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2009
Fri, 12-04-2009 - 12:45pm

Unwrittened I think you are dead on.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-26-2009
Fri, 12-04-2009 - 1:26pm

Every recovery is a kind of rebirth