so lost and need help!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2009
so lost and need help!
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Mon, 12-07-2009 - 11:38pm

i have been married to my husband for three years and recently i've gotten myself into an emotional/physical affair. this person lives overseas but we talk all the time. DH found out that we said the we loved each other and was really upset. a week after finding out, he went through my phone again and saw that we were still talking and sharing our feelings.

am i crazy or is it possible to love two people at the same time? i truly truly love my husband but at the same time, i've fallen for this other person.

i ultimately want to end my relationship with this man and work on making my marriage better but i can't bring myself to do it. this man happens to be my good friend-not just a lover.

please help me!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-2009
Tue, 12-08-2009 - 5:22am
Have you ever met this guy in person? If not than you do not love him.....its a fantasy.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2009
Tue, 12-08-2009 - 7:20am
Just to clarify, I have met this person several times before. We have a mutual friend who introduced us. In addition, actually came to visit the US just a few weeks ago and spend 2 weeks with my husband and I.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2008
Tue, 12-08-2009 - 7:21am

just 3 years into marriage and an A? there is something really wrong in the M .you need to look into that seriously.AP's dont make friends once you sleep with them.PA changes everything.
As your A is just online,stopping contact is not tough at all if you really want to.And no,you wont be missing the 'friendship'.Is AP M or S? it doesnt matter basicaly.

you should read the posts here and see the rollercoast of emotions which most of us go through.A's are not for th faint hearted!!