Please help me!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-14-2009
Please help me!
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Mon, 12-14-2009 - 11:35am

I have a real problem, and I'm hoping someone out there can help me out.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-18-2008
Mon, 12-14-2009 - 11:57am

Hi there,


i completely understand how you feel. As you said it it is an addiction. You like the feeling of been wanted and desired.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-14-2009
Mon, 12-14-2009 - 1:17pm

Thanks so much for your reply, and for being kind.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-14-2009
Mon, 12-14-2009 - 1:46pm
I completely understand how you feel. I am the same. My story is under the "New here". I hate who I am, yet I guess not enough to quit. What is wrong with me??? I feel your pain, and I wish I had answers, but if I did I guess I wouldnt be here too.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-18-2008
Mon, 12-14-2009 - 2:20pm

Pleeease, YOU

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2009
Mon, 12-14-2009 - 2:32pm

I know where you're coming from. My H is also a wonderful man. He's the best father. We have our share of problems, but nothing that would cause me to want a divorce. My AP is a sleaze, but that voice, his smell, the way he looks at me - it all makes me want him every time I'm around him. I feel like actual sparks fly off of me when he's nearby. My whole body boils for him. I can't explain it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2009
Mon, 12-14-2009 - 8:06pm

good for you to be honest about all this.. especially with yourself.. you are not sugarcoating anything and that's actually about half the trip to where you need to be.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2007
Mon, 12-14-2009 - 8:11pm
I am sorry you are going through that pain. I know how you feel and it just makes you want to run away sometimes. There is something that is missing that this man fulfills. Maybe excitement, attention, etc. I am not happy in my M so I have no issues with guilt but I did a few years back. Try to sit and think about it and really try to figure out why you do it and what you really want. I hope this helps a little bit. You will never be judged on here. You are not a bad person. Everyone does things they are not proud of. This place really helps, because holding it all in drives you crazy. (((HUGS)))
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-14-2009
Tue, 12-15-2009 - 9:35am
wow.....reading all these responses make me feel so much better, even though I am not the one who posted the initial question. I feel the same way. I absolutely HATE the person I am. I am so ethical in all other areas of my life, but for some reason I can not be faithful when it comes to my marriage. And it is not about the sex. I cant tell you what it is about. But it is something that draws you back until the worse happens....you fall in love. I wish I could quit.....I really really do. I posted on the EAS board, but was pretty much told that until I was ready to commit to ending it, they couldnt help me. The thing is, I want to get to where I want to end it.....if that makes sense. I just dont know how. I already know all the reprucussions of being caught, the fact that I am going to get my heart broke, but I just want to not want it.......sigh.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-14-2009
Tue, 12-15-2009 - 9:49am

Thanks to you all for your replies.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-14-2009
Tue, 12-15-2009 - 10:01am
wow shameonme.......you sound so much like me it isnt even funny. Please feel free to email me......we have SO much in common.

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